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Many people have owned, seen, or thought of owning sex toys, but many couples do not explore sex toys together. Perhaps it is because many people view sex toys as dirty or something that does not need to be done within a marriage or serious relationship. Or perhaps it is simply because we have a tendency to be embarrassed about such matters. If more couples would come together and realize that sex toys and a playful attitude towards sex and their time together in the bedroom then a great deal of people would be happier with their sex lives. Sex toys can allow couples to experiment with one another and their own sexuality in new and exciting ways.

Sex toys don’t have to be looked at in a negative light like many people look at them. They aren’t dirty or even anything to be embarrassed about. Of course, the vast majority of people wouldn’t give rave reviews over a new sex toy of some sort over dinner with their family, but these toys aren’t anything that shouldn’t be enjoyed. In fact, they are produced to be enjoyed by consenting adults that have nothing to be embarrassed about! And, when couples can enjoy such things they can learn how to interact sexually in new and exciting ways.

It’s a great idea for couples to talk about sex and sex toys as soon as they begin a sexual relationship. The longer you wait to talk about such matters, the more awkward it will become. Even if you’ve never owned any sex toys in the past, you should be able to express your desire to go shopping for some toys that will accentuate your already steamy sex life. Going shopping for the first time can be a little awkward, but that is why the couple should decide to share all of their feelings while shopping! They should be able to express what they like, what they find interesting, and what they think is absolutely disgusting. Just the sex toy shopping experience can bring a couple closer together because they’ll learn new things about one another.

There are a lot places to buy sex toys, but buying them online is a great idea if one or both people are feeling a bit nervous about it. Buying online will allow you to see full color, vivid pictures of all of the sex toys you could ever imagine without actually stepping foot in an adult store! When you order sex toys online everyone can get what they want and it will arrive at your front door within a matter of days so that the play can begin! Some toys you’ll find that you really enjoy as a couple while others you can simply play or not play with.

Couples may find that they only pull out their sex toys once a month, but it’s the knowledge that there are always new and fun ways to please one another that makes sex toys so much fun. Whether you plan to play with them all of the time or every once and again, sex toys can be a very good thing for couples that have just begun and those that have been together for quite some time.

The very nature of sex requires two bodies to meet in a potentially friction restricted way. This is where sex lubricants are used to reduce friction and enhance pleasure.

WHAT ARE SEX LUBRICANTS?

Sex lubricants, sometimes referred to as personal lubricants are specially designed lubricants for use during sexual activities. In a similar manner to conventional lubricants sex lubricants are designed to eliminate friction between two surfaces. All modern sex lubricants have evolved from surgical lubricants such as KY Cream that were widely used during vaginal or anal examinations to facilitate access for the surgeon and reduce discomfort for the patient. Although designed primarily as a surgical lubricant KY quickly became recognized as a great lubricant when engaging in sexual practices. In recent years a number of companies developed and marketed a range of products specifically designed to be used as sex lubricants.

WATER BASED SEX LUBRICANTS

Water based lubricants are water soluble and are generally considered to be the type that is least likely to lead to skin irritation. Early water based lubes were cellulose based products but further developments has seen the addition of various agent to improve the Lubricants performance. These agents improve spreading properties and resistance to contamination.
One problem with earlier water based lubricants was their tendency to dry up during use, fortunately adding a small amount of water reactivates them. More advanced products contain dimethicone that prolongs the lubricating properties and reduces drying up.

Please note that water based lubricants are not compatible with sex practices that occur in water, as such if you enjoy sex in the bath these products are not right for you.

OIL BASED SEX LUBRICANTS

Oil based lubricants aren’t widely used nowadays due to a number of problems. Unlike water based lubricants oil products weaken latex and can subsequently weaken latex condoms. Additionally oil based lubricants have a tendency to coat and stick to surfaces for prolonged periods providing a breeding ground for bacteria that can later lead to infection. As such it is generally accepted that oil based lubricants are not safe for vaginal sex and should only be used for anal sex where it is known that both parties are free from STD’s.

To conclude oil based products such as Vaseline and baby oil may be easily available and relative cheap but the associated medical risks far outweigh any financial benefit.

SILICONE BASED LUBRICANTS

The hydrophobic nature of silicone base lubricants technically makes them oil based. However most have been specially designed to be chemically compatible with latex condoms. The advantage of silicone sex lubricants is that they remain slippery for longer periods, the disadvantage however is that they cannot be used with silicone sex toys.

USES OF SEX LUBRICANTS

Whilst historically medical lubricants such as Ky Jelly were used to assist during medical procedures such as gynaecological and rectal examinations modern sex lubricants are specifically designed to increase pleasure of sexual practices. The lubricants can be applied to either the penis or sex toys to aid penetration during vaginal intercourse. Particularly applicable to women that experience vaginal dryness or contraction. Lubricants are also used to increase the pleasure of anal sex, simplifying entry and increasing pleasure for both parties.

Choose wisely and you are sure to enhance your enjoyment of sex.

Why is it, when it comes to dating, men always seem to be winning the game? And yes, make no mistake, it is a game. So why can’t women play right along with men? They can, as long as they don’t let their female tendency to over-think get in the way!

Women can play as well as men, but they may have to play by the men’s rules since they were the creators of the game. In other words, play the game right back at them! Have fun with the players! Why wait for a guy you are interested in to call you or not call you? Ask him for his number at the bar where you met him, and don’t wait for him to ask for yours. In fact, don’t even let him have yours, just ask him for his. Use it if you want to, but feel free and completely within your right to toss it on your nightstand and let it sit there for a few days too. If you do end up having a great conversation with a guy at the bar or at a party or other social event, don’t feel the need to hang on his every word until he gets bored and decides to move on, only to come back to you at the end of the night to see if you’ll leave with him. Do your own leaving!

Ok, so you’re not the type to play these games and find then rather distasteful. Let’s say you are ready, willing and able to jump headfirst into dating with no games whatsoever. Why, then, haven’t you found the man of your dreams? You are attractive, witty, you have a great job and you are single. Perhaps you need to take a good look at your motives and re-think what’s really important to you. Chances are you have been dating for longer than you would like to admit, and it may just be a matter of looking at your situation with fresh eyes. One thing to remember is not to sweat the small stuff. If you hate his shirt, who cares? So many women get hung up on trivial things like this. What if his ex-girlfriend told him it was the hottest shirt she has ever seen and you just happen to have a different opinion? For all you know, you could be wearing something that reminds him of his mother and you spent two hours getting as hot as you could get tonight preparing for your date. Even if he ends up truly being a bad dresser, this is something that can change over time or perhaps you can even learn to ignore it. There are more important things, which should come to light when you re-think why you are dating in the first place.

On the opposite end of the spectrum is another dating trap into which women fall and what I call the "He’s The One" syndrome. Some women become so desperate for love that they convince themselves after very little time that the present guy of the moment is their One True Love. By romanticizing every little thing and making him into a larger-than-life character instead of recognizing his humanity, you do yourself a disservice. First, you fail to see this man for who he really is. This is a problem because in a few short months, when even more of his traits come to light, you may want to walk away from an otherwise great relationship because you have put him on a pedestal without his asking for it. Second, by making more of the relationship than it is too early, you may scare him away. Yes, men still do get scared. Even if he is very excited about the prospect of dating you, he is likely not ready for marriage after a month and neither should you be. In taking your time, hard as it may be, you will learn more and more about him. This is, in fact, the third reason to not fall prey to "He’s The One" syndrome. Once you learn more about him, you may discover aspects that you truly dislike and this will help you to decide what you really do want in a man and be helpful later on in life when the next guy comes along. To the contrary, you may learn more about your current date and find new things to cherish all the time. By taking it slowly, you may discover the little nuances of his personality that you have missed if you had been rushing it and always trying to get to the ‘next level’ so to speak.

Men may think they have the market wrapped up when it comes to dating know-how, but there is no reason to perpetuate this myth. Women have just as much know how and should start to use it!

Why is it, when it comes to dating, men always seem to be winning the game? And yes, make no mistake, it is a game. So why can’t women play right along with men? They can, as long as they don’t let their female tendency to over-think get in the way!

Women can play as well as men, but they may have to play by the men’s rules since they were the creators of the game. In other words, play the game right back at them! Have fun with the players! Why wait for a guy you are interested in to call you or not call you? Ask him for his number at the bar where you met him, and don’t wait for him to ask for yours. In fact, don’t even let him have yours, just ask him for his. Use it if you want to, but feel free and completely within your right to toss it on your nightstand and let it sit there for a few days too. If you do end up having a great conversation with a guy at the bar or at a party or other social event, don’t feel the need to hang on his every word until he gets bored and decides to move on, only to come back to you at the end of the night to see if you’ll leave with him. Do your own leaving!

Ok, so you’re not the type to play these games and find then rather distasteful. Let’s say you are ready, willing and able to jump headfirst into dating with no games whatsoever. Why, then, haven’t you found the man of your dreams? You are attractive, witty, you have a great job and you are single. Perhaps you need to take a good look at your motives and re-think what’s really important to you. Chances are you have been dating for longer than you would like to admit, and it may just be a matter of looking at your situation with fresh eyes. One thing to remember is not to sweat the small stuff. If you hate his shirt, who cares? So many women get hung up on trivial things like this. What if his ex-girlfriend told him it was the hottest shirt she has ever seen and you just happen to have a different opinion? For all you know, you could be wearing something that reminds him of his mother and you spent two hours getting as hot as you could get tonight preparing for your date. Even if he ends up truly being a bad dresser, this is something that can change over time or perhaps you can even learn to ignore it. There are more important things, which should come to light when you re-think why you are dating in the first place.

On the opposite end of the spectrum is another dating trap into which women fall and what I call the "He’s The One" syndrome. Some women become so desperate for love that they convince themselves after very little time that the present guy of the moment is their One True Love. By romanticizing every little thing and making him into a larger-than-life character instead of recognizing his humanity, you do yourself a disservice. First, you fail to see this man for who he really is. This is a problem because in a few short months, when even more of his traits come to light, you may want to walk away from an otherwise great relationship because you have put him on a pedestal without his asking for it. Second, by making more of the relationship than it is too early, you may scare him away. Yes, men still do get scared. Even if he is very excited about the prospect of dating you, he is likely not ready for marriage after a month and neither should you be. In taking your time, hard as it may be, you will learn more and more about him. This is, in fact, the third reason to not fall prey to "He’s The One" syndrome. Once you learn more about him, you may discover aspects that you truly dislike and this will help you to decide what you really do want in a man and be helpful later on in life when the next guy comes along. To the contrary, you may learn more about your current date and find new things to cherish all the time. By taking it slowly, you may discover the little nuances of his personality that you have missed if you had been rushing it and always trying to get to the ‘next level’ so to speak.

Men may think they have the market wrapped up when it comes to dating know-how, but there is no reason to perpetuate this myth. Women have just as much know how and should start to use it!

Why is it, when it comes to dating, men always seem to be winning the game? And yes, make no mistake, it is a game. So why can’t women play right along with men? They can, as long as they don’t let their female tendency to over-think get in the way!

Women can play as well as men, but they may have to play by the men’s rules since they were the creators of the game. In other words, play the game right back at them! Have fun with the players! Why wait for a guy you are interested in to call you or not call you? Ask him for his number at the bar where you met him, and don’t wait for him to ask for yours. In fact, don’t even let him have yours, just ask him for his. Use it if you want to, but feel free and completely within your right to toss it on your nightstand and let it sit there for a few days too. If you do end up having a great conversation with a guy at the bar or at a party or other social event, don’t feel the need to hang on his every word until he gets bored and decides to move on, only to come back to you at the end of the night to see if you’ll leave with him. Do your own leaving!

Ok, so you’re not the type to play these games and find then rather distasteful. Let’s say you are ready, willing and able to jump headfirst into dating with no games whatsoever. Why, then, haven’t you found the man of your dreams? You are attractive, witty, you have a great job and you are single. Perhaps you need to take a good look at your motives and re-think what’s really important to you. Chances are you have been dating for longer than you would like to admit, and it may just be a matter of looking at your situation with fresh eyes. One thing to remember is not to sweat the small stuff. If you hate his shirt, who cares? So many women get hung up on trivial things like this. What if his ex-girlfriend told him it was the hottest shirt she has ever seen and you just happen to have a different opinion? For all you know, you could be wearing something that reminds him of his mother and you spent two hours getting as hot as you could get tonight preparing for your date. Even if he ends up truly being a bad dresser, this is something that can change over time or perhaps you can even learn to ignore it. There are more important things, which should come to light when you re-think why you are dating in the first place.

On the opposite end of the spectrum is another dating trap into which women fall and what I call the "He’s The One" syndrome. Some women become so desperate for love that they convince themselves after very little time that the present guy of the moment is their One True Love. By romanticizing every little thing and making him into a larger-than-life character instead of recognizing his humanity, you do yourself a disservice. First, you fail to see this man for who he really is. This is a problem because in a few short months, when even more of his traits come to light, you may want to walk away from an otherwise great relationship because you have put him on a pedestal without his asking for it. Second, by making more of the relationship than it is too early, you may scare him away. Yes, men still do get scared. Even if he is very excited about the prospect of dating you, he is likely not ready for marriage after a month and neither should you be. In taking your time, hard as it may be, you will learn more and more about him. This is, in fact, the third reason to not fall prey to "He’s The One" syndrome. Once you learn more about him, you may discover aspects that you truly dislike and this will help you to decide what you really do want in a man and be helpful later on in life when the next guy comes along. To the contrary, you may learn more about your current date and find new things to cherish all the time. By taking it slowly, you may discover the little nuances of his personality that you have missed if you had been rushing it and always trying to get to the ‘next level’ so to speak.

Men may think they have the market wrapped up when it comes to dating know-how, but there is no reason to perpetuate this myth. Women have just as much know how and should start to use it!