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Sex life feeling a bit stale? Well, there’s one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it’s your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favorites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you’ve had in years? Just follow this step-by-step guide.

Why it appeals to you: It’s a power game and “forbidden” sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter.

What you’ll need: A “sexy secretary”-type outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.

The action plan:
The trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You’re seducing him, and he’s struggling ‑- torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mom say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you’re going to fix a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge room with your drinks. He sits on the couch, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hiking your skirt high. He’s not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you’d ask your son’s friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another ‑- saucier ‑- level. Tell him you don’t think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you’re attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic ‑- and tries to hide his erection.

At that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband’s. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.

In between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he’s ever made love to a woman before. He’ll squeak out a no. Ask him if he’d like to make love to you, and tell him it’s okay ‑- you won’t tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You’re still the grown-up ‑- so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his pants. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex ‑- stopping just short of orgasm.

Undress yourself theatrically while maintaining eye contact. Let his eyes caress your body, but don’t let him touch you. Leave on your high heels and stockings. Pose provocatively and caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. Then undress him, kissing each bit of his flesh as it becomes exposed. When you’re both naked, lead him to the bed, then explain exactly how to make a woman scream in ecstasy. Each touch, kiss, fondle and thrust is his very first, remember. The fantasy ends when he completely loses control ‑- which should happen within about, ohhh, three minutes if you’ve played your part properly!

Fantasy #2: He’s your sex slave

Why it appeals to you: Having someone at your sexual beck and call has obvious benefits. You don’t have to worry about the “no, you first honey” niceties of sex; it’s all about your pleasure, and your pleasure alone.

Why he’ll love it too: Something happens to women during this scenario; they start suggesting things they wouldn’t dare during “normal” lovemaking. Who wouldn’t love a wild woman in his bed?

What you’ll need:

• A leather jacket worn over black underwear
• Stockings and a push-up bra
• Knee-high or thigh-high boots
• A blindfold, scarves or old stockings to tie him up
• A wooden spoon or hairbrush

The action plan:
Start by ordering him to do small tasks ‑- get you a drink, fluff up the pillows, give you a foot massage. Don’t ask, order. Make it clear that you are the boss and he is not to misbehave or he’ll be punished (think of a mild punishment beforehand, like spanking him with the wooden spoon). Try to keep an expressionless face. No Are you okay?, Did I hurt you?, Are you sure you’re enjoying this? This isn’t about him ‑- it’s all about you!

Once you’re both in character, order him to sit or lie down, face turned away from you. Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back, then push him forward into a submissive position. He’s now naked, bound and blindfolded ‑- completely at your mercy! Grab your wooden spoon or brush and administer a few short, sharp whacks on his bottom. Start caressing and stroking his bottom, the backs of his thighs, reach between his legs and caress his testicles. Wait until he’s moaning for more… then stop.

Tell him it’s up to you to decide what he gets and when, and he has to satisfy you first. Turn him around and order him to do whatever you’d like. No matter how pleasurable what he’s doing to you might be, push him away when he seems to be enjoying himself the most. Grab his hair, hold it tightly and tell him he’s been a bad boy. Administer a few more smacks on his bottom with the spoon. If you’re into talking dirty, keep a running commentary of what’s happening. If he’s blindfolded, paint a picture of what you’re seeing: Look at you, you’re begging for it. I bet you’d love to be untied. But you’re my slave. You have to do every single thing I say. Do you understand me? Are you going to behave? The fantasy ends with you announcing ‑- dramatically ‑- that he’s now free… to service you.

Fantasy #3: You’re abducted by a stranger

Why it appeals to you: The “safe rape” is a very common female fantasy ‑- but it’s such a far cry from the real thing it seems ridiculous to even call it rape. Passionate and forceful, but never violent or painful, the “rapes” in our head differ because we’re always in control, even though we’re being “forced” to submit.

Why he’ll love it too: Being the physical aggressor is taboo for men. Being given a “harmless” outlet to let loose some deeply primitive urges without being punished is appealing.

What you’ll need to act it out: A quiet bedroom and a mirror

The action plan: You’re naked while he’s dressed in street clothes (a dark suit would play up the mysterious stranger element). You’re in your bedroom, admiring your body with your hands and your eyes in a full-length mirror. He sneaks up silently behind you, covers your eyes with his hands and says, Shhh! I won’t hurt you. But you have to do exactly as I say. You freeze and pretend to be terrified. You’re not sure what to do, knowing that he’ll overpower you if you try to get away. He waits for you to calm down and for your breathing to become regular again. Meanwhile, you’re conscious of the sensation of your naked skin against the roughness of his clothes ‑- and you’re oddly excited by it.

He tells you in a low, suggestive voice, that you should draw your curtains before getting undressed at night. He’s been watching and fantasizing and masturbating while watching you for weeks ‑- and he just had to have you. He knows that your boyfriend isn’t due home for hours and that no one else is coming to rescue you either. You remain motionless. You’re torn between wanting desperately to be saved and being sexually fascinated by the idea of someone wanting you so badly that they’d risk everything. You don’t say a word. Still standing behind you, he keeps one hand over your eyes and uses the other to stroke your breasts, your stomach, your neck and your thighs. You’re not sure how to react. You can feel yourself starting to respond physically, even though you know you shouldn’t.

As he touches you, he starts telling you exactly what he plans to do to you ‑- in detail. It seems as if he knows exactly what turns you on and talks just the way you want him to, be it seductive and suggestive, or coarse and explicit. When he feels you begin to weaken, he removes his hands from your eyes and you look in the mirror to see him standing behind you, hands on your breasts, his mouth buried in the nape of your neck, kissing you. He’s even sexier than you’d dared hope. Your resistance wanes, but you refuse to let him know you’re turned on.

Just when you’re beginning to relax, he pulls your arms gently behind your back, holding them together at the wrist and using his other hand to continue exploring.

He maintains eye contact in the mirror and challenges you to tell him you’re not enjoying what he’s doing. At first, you shake your head and say you’re not. But he tells you that you have no choice; you’re in his power.

You resist everything he tries… at first. Then you let him continue. You don’t admit that you’re erotically charged, but your body is giving you away. You’re ready for him. Come on, you want it, he whispers while licking, touching and stimulating you until you can’t take it anymore. Finally you let him penetrate. You give in and leave all the initial innocence behind ‑- resulting in a climax so powerful the neighbors bang on the ceiling!

…Perfect Your Hand Job

The humble hand job comes into its own – literally – during sex in public places. Apart from kissing, using your hands is the lowest-risk sexual activity – and since it’s how lots of us masturbate, the genitals respond nicely to the right type of touch. “Right” usually means she should do it harder and he should go softer (it’s what each sex is most used to). Not much time? Go for a superfast orgasm for her by positioning her (sitting or standing) in front of you. Rest one palm on the top of her pubic bone and press down firmly, pushing forward, pulling back or moving in circles. Next, insert (well-lubricated) fingers: one inside her vagina, the other in her anus. It’s a three-way she won’t mind you suggesting – or repeating. Blow him away (in all senses) by trying this technique: Twist your hands in opposite directions as you move up and down (one clockwise, one counterclockwise) or make two fists around his penis, hold them centrally, then move one downward and the other upward. Use one-word questions to ask for feedback (harder? faster?) so he only has to answer yes or no. Keep the rhythm constant, building up to a fast speed, then slow it down dramatically before moving back up again. Repeat several times, letting him hover on the brink, before tipping him over with a decided flourish.

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I hate to say this… Sometimes sex with a woman can get boring!

I know, you probably think I’m completely nuts for saying this. But it’s true. If you’ve been having sex with one woman for awhile, then you’ve probably tried every conceivable position and technique. Even if you’re with the most beautiful girl in the world, there will be a time when things have grown stagnant.

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Many people have owned, seen, or thought of owning sex toys, but many couples do not explore sex toys together. Perhaps it is because many people view sex toys as dirty or something that does not need to be done within a marriage or serious relationship. Or perhaps it is simply because we have a tendency to be embarrassed about such matters. If more couples would come together and realize that sex toys and a playful attitude towards sex and their time together in the bedroom then a great deal of people would be happier with their sex lives. Sex toys can allow couples to experiment with one another and their own sexuality in new and exciting ways.

Sex toys don’t have to be looked at in a negative light like many people look at them. They aren’t dirty or even anything to be embarrassed about. Of course, the vast majority of people wouldn’t give rave reviews over a new sex toy of some sort over dinner with their family, but these toys aren’t anything that shouldn’t be enjoyed. In fact, they are produced to be enjoyed by consenting adults that have nothing to be embarrassed about! And, when couples can enjoy such things they can learn how to interact sexually in new and exciting ways.

It’s a great idea for couples to talk about sex and sex toys as soon as they begin a sexual relationship. The longer you wait to talk about such matters, the more awkward it will become. Even if you’ve never owned any sex toys in the past, you should be able to express your desire to go shopping for some toys that will accentuate your already steamy sex life. Going shopping for the first time can be a little awkward, but that is why the couple should decide to share all of their feelings while shopping! They should be able to express what they like, what they find interesting, and what they think is absolutely disgusting. Just the sex toy shopping experience can bring a couple closer together because they’ll learn new things about one another.

There are a lot places to buy sex toys, but buying them online is a great idea if one or both people are feeling a bit nervous about it. Buying online will allow you to see full color, vivid pictures of all of the sex toys you could ever imagine without actually stepping foot in an adult store! When you order sex toys online everyone can get what they want and it will arrive at your front door within a matter of days so that the play can begin! Some toys you’ll find that you really enjoy as a couple while others you can simply play or not play with.

Couples may find that they only pull out their sex toys once a month, but it’s the knowledge that there are always new and fun ways to please one another that makes sex toys so much fun. Whether you plan to play with them all of the time or every once and again, sex toys can be a very good thing for couples that have just begun and those that have been together for quite some time.

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Introducing adult sex toys into your relationship needn’t be embarrassing or uncomfortable for you or your partner. In this article we’ll examine the correct approach for the introduction of sex toys that will ultimately result in a better happier more fulfilling sex life.

The facts are simple, the maintenance of a fulfilling sex life is essential for the long term happiness of any couple. Old clichés such as "if it’s not happening in the bedroom, its not happening at all" couldn’t be more accurate. An unfulfilling sex life will ultimately lead to frustration and tension between the couple that then frequently spirals out of control resulting in a total breakdown of the sexual relationship. The worst case scenario is that either or both members of the relationship seek sexual gratification elsewhere. Far from ideal.

Adult sex toys offer a method by which a couple can enrich and enhance their sex lives without wandering outside of their existing relationship. By employing adult sex toys they not only enhance their own experience of sex but that of their partner resulting in a far happier relationship for both.

So what’s the correct approach?

Communication is essential in any relationship and when tackling the introduction of adult sex toys communication is particularly important. First and foremost it’s essential that you first discuss yours and your partner’s boundaries. Couple using sex toys for the first time may feel intimidated. As such it’s advisable that your first experiences with adult sex toys should not involve items with names like "the Kong"!

Typically couple will wish to start will smaller adult toys that can give pleasure to both parties. Therefore when building up your confidence with sex toys we’d first suggest using smaller egg type vibrators that can be used for clitoral stimulation or alternatively vibrating penis rings. Both varieties offer satisfaction to both parties without placing either party in a situation where they may feel intimidated and threatened.

As yours and your partners confidence grows with your new sex toys you can start to explore your fantasies and express this with larger more advanced sex toys. It’s all about breaking down those barriers; the idea is to gradually work yourself into a situation where you can use any sex toy that your mind desires without your partner feeling uncomfortable or inadequate. It’s essential to understand that sex toys are an accessory to sex when used in a relationship and not an alternative.

Whilst using your new adult sex toys the first few times keep the communication channels open, ask your partner if what you’re doing is working for them. Keep doing this until you are confident that the sex toy is being used to its full potential. Couples that have never used vibrators can be overwhelmed by sensations that are new to them so you may have to avoid the most sensitive areas initially. In time however you’ll wonder how you ever coped without them!

The important thing to remember is that adult sex toys are designed to enhance your enjoyment of sex. They should be fun, something to be enjoyed with your partner. The taboo’s that may have surrounded these toys historically have been broken down over the years with adult sex toys now available on the High Street. Boots have recently announced that they are considering stocking their stores with basic sex toys. The fact is adult sex toys are here to stay, they continue to improve and including them in your bedroom activities will only bring positives to your relationship.

Handsome hunk, actor Martin, who pumped iron at a gym and was a regular pub-hopper, suddenly found himself with no desire for sex. Enquiry revealed that he used anabolic steroids, abused his body by drinking, smoking and eating out every day. His body buckled under these bingeing sessions, lowering his libido and affecting his sexual performance. Several others are today afflicted by similar lifestyle disorders, affecting their sex life and relationships. Sexual energy moves through the psyche (mind) and the body. If it’s channelized elsewhere, it will not flow in sex, thus reducing the sexual drive in a person. Low libido is the result of the diversion of psychic energies. Diversion if energies could have reasons ranging from physical, emotional and mental to social and even spiritual. So, it is important to diagnose the reason and take corrective measures to improve libido.

DON’T ABUSE YOUR BODY

It may not be evident, but wearing tight undergarments compresses the testicles which produce the hormone testosterone, lowering its production. Low levels of the hormone lead to low libido. Use of anabolic steroids too adversely affects the libido, as also other forms of abuse. In smokers, nicotine damages the arterial lining, making it attract cholesterol, thus narrowing the arteries. Therefore, the blood flowing to the sex organs is less, and affects the erection in men. Many believe that alcohol aids arousal. The reality is that alcohol might initially relax you enough to create some sexual arousal, but excessive consumption actually results in lowering the sexual drive.

Alcohol affects the liver function adversely, and the hormone testosterone is activated in the liver. Moreover, if you suffer from borderline diabetes, alcohol makes it worse. An unhealthy diet comprising oily, high-caloric, sugar-laden foods could result in high cholesterol which narrows arteries, restricts blood flow and affects sexual performance. If one is suffering from hypertension (high blood pressure) due to wrong food habits and obesity resulting from the same and uses anti-hypertensive medication, one might suffer from the side-effect of a lowered libido. Keeping late nights and parrying till the wee hours of the morning result in erratic sleep patterns and accumulated fatigue, which adversely affect libido.

FOR IMPROVED LIBIDO, YOU NEED

• Adequate sleep
• Healthy diet
• Abstinence from excessive smoking and drinking
• A fitness regime
• To avoid steroids and anti-depressants

DIRECT YOUR ENERGIES WISELY

Due to stressful lifestyles, psychic energies are also diverted into emotions like anxiety and depression. If one’s energies are locked up in worrying about performance evaluations on the job, competing with colleagues for promotions, and being on the lookout for better opportunities, not much psychic energy is available to flow into sex. High conflict levels between the husband and wife too result in stressful emotions, leading to lowered libido. Use of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications to combat stress is another cause.

Both investment banker Andrew and mutual fund manager David were distressed by their low libido. While the adrenalin rush that came from the handling of monies was so great that, to Andrew, sex paled in comparison, David was so stressed with market fluctuations, which swayed his clients’ fortunes, that he was left mentally and emotionally fatigued. Today double-income couples find no leisure to unwind and connect as a couple. Any time together is spent on household chores, planning home/car loan payments, discussing economics, or work-related issues. Therefore, the psychic energies of both are locked in preoccupations other than connecting sensually, thus lowering libido in both.

TO ADD THE SIZZLE BACK

• Consciously plan a weekend getaway
• Make a pact to not discuss work during the holiday
• Make time for each other, at least a few minutes every day in the morning and evening
• Cut down on unnecessary chores to get more free time together

STOP BEING A SUPERWOMAN

Malvika was excessively preoccupied with her duties towards her in-laws and extended family and coping with a hectic social life, throwing parties and attending them too. She was also anxious about her role as a mother and her children’s performance at school. Parents who have moved away from naturally loving and instinctive parenting become emotional wrecks who are torn between showcasing their kids and being unconditionally loving parents. With psychic energies being diverted towards stressful parenting, low libido is a definite fall-out.

FOR STRESS-FREE PARENTING AND BETTER SEX

• Focus on living sane, balanced and loving inner and outer lives
• Don’t get bogged down by parenting pressures
• Don’t pile too much on your plate
• Do your best, forget the rest
• Give up trying to please everybody
• Be kind to yourself

OTHER CAUSES OF LOW LIBIDO

VOWS OF CELIBACY

People who surrender to the philosophies of some spiritual cults that encourage you to take the vow of celibacy, could gradually start experiencing low libido as they sublimate their urges in prayer, rituals and service-oriented activities. The bottom line is that wherever you channelize your psychic energies, they will gradually flow in that direction.

PSEUDO LOW LIBIDO

There is also the entity of a pseudo low libido, which is only reported by the partner of one who ‘claims’ to have a low libido. Banker Susan reported a virtually non-existent sexual life between her and her husband. Her husband Roger reported that he did not have any sexual urge ‘with his wife’ and therefore did not initiate sex. His words ‘with his wife’ gave him away. Roger only ’seemed’ to have a low libido, which was not the reality. He was obviously resorting to other outlets for his sexual urges. He later admitted to self-pleasuring with fantasies of other women, which he claimed gratified him more than the ’sexual exercise’ with his wife.

SELF-PLEASURING AND PORNOGRAPHY

The internet is getting many people hooked to a lifestyle of sex chatting and self-pleasuring by viewing porn sites. Also, there is a remarkable increase in affairs at the workplace, people travelling on the job and using ‘escort services’ in foreign lands. A hectic work schedule with one foot at the airport and one at home is also getting people engaged more in self-pleasuring in fantasy with or without the aid of porn, as a routine, as it is ‘more convenient’. These are not actual cases of low libido but only perceived as such by their partners, as they engage their libido elsewhere.

All in all, your lifestyle is responsible for your low libido. Only a wholesome change in your lifestyle can help you restore balance in every aspect of your life. So, identify the cause, take corrective measures and rediscover your sexual pleasures.

The Kegel Exercises derive their origin from the name of Dr Arnold Kegel who discovered this wonderful exercise regimen. These are very beneficial for the pubococcygeal muscles also known as Kegel muscles. The idea behind this exercise is to tone these muscles as well as strengthen them thereby avoiding pelvic floor problems. The primary reason for the exercise was to control incontinence in women following childbirth as well as elderly women. But things have changed and now it is advised as an easy way to treat urinary stress incontinence. Another very good reason for you to do this exercise is that it makes your sex-life pleasurable! Regardless of your age, you should do these exercises to have gratifying and enjoyable intercourse.

CAUSES OF WEAKENING VAGINAL MUSCLES

Lack of exercise, been through many pregnancies, growing age and being overweight.

WAYS TO DO KEGEL EXERCISES

One of the easiest ways to do this is to contract the vagina and then relax. Repeat this at least 20-400 times a day depending on your strength.

The other method is to avoid using your stomach, leg, back or buttock muscles while doing this exercise. Breathe slowly and deeply. If your abdominal muscles move while doing this asana you are doing it the right way. The movement of your leg and buttocks muscles means you are in the wrong direction.

Gadgets are also available in the market which would help you exercise the right muscles.

EASY TO DO

This exercise hardly takes any time and you can do it anywhere. Standing in a bus queue, while watching TV, lying down, walking and pretty much while doing anything else.

It is better to start early and maintain the strength of your vagina muscles. As you grow older, particularly during menopause, the muscles are weakened.

THE NEED TO DO IT

We give lot of attention to our external look by doing number of exercises. Kegel exercise helps us improving our body internally. This exercise, if done in a proper and regular fashion, provides great results. This exercise may not work wonders overnight but by regular practice it will surely reap results. Some may notice changes within two weeks.

HOW TO FIND THE RIGHT MUSCLE

If you have no clue which muscle we are talking about then the answer is the one which is used while you pee. The muscle that helps you control your urinal release, i.e. start and stop urination is the pubococcygeus muscle. One should avoid doing Kegel exercise while urinating.

IS THIS THE RIGHT MUSCLE?

The tightening of the vagina on a squeeze by your finger would tell that you are exercising the right muscles.

BENEFITS OF DOING KEGEL EXERCISES

• An enjoyable and painless way to reach orgasm
• It makes your orgasm stronger and better
• It prevents prolepses and incontinence
• Childbirth becomes much easier and the muscles regain their strength very quickly after birth
• Would increase your confidence level
• More control in bed

Warning: The reader of this article should exercise all precautionary measures while following instructions. The responsibility lies with the reader and not with the site or the writer.

Nowadays sex toys are considered a perfectly acceptable accessory to any fulfilling and healthy sex life. However it’s worth remembering that all of these items when in use come into contact with highly sensitive intimate areas of your body. As such it is absolutely essential that your sex toys are washed before first use and after each use. Additionally, never under any circumstances re-use a sex toys with more than one sexual partner. This is not only irresponsible but also potentially harmful.

The most effective method of cleaning a sex toy is by using a good antibacterial cleanser that contains Nonoxynol-9. A chemical known for its effectiveness as a spermicidal agent and also for its ability to protect against sexually transmitted diseases. Many condoms, sex lubricants and jellies contain this product.

Typically you would simply dilute your antibacterial cleanser with water, wash your sex toy with a clean cloth before rinsing thoroughly and drying with either paper towels or a lint free cloth. However sex toys can be manufactured from a variety of materials, some of which may need to be treated differently:-

SILICONE SEX TOYS

A very popular material in the production of sex toys due to its hypoallergenic and easy maintenance attributes. Non battery operated products can be boiled for several minutes or washed using an antibacterial cleanser as detailed above. Ensure your sex toys are completely dry before storing.

PLASTIC, ACRYLIC & GLASS SEX TOYS

All can be washed using an antibacterial cleanser as mentioned above however non battery operated acrylic and glass toys may also be submerged in boiling water prior to thorough drying.

RUBBER, LATEX & JELLY SEX TOYS

The most porous of all the materials used in the manufacturing of sex toys. Extra care needs to be taken with these items, use a good antibacterial cleanser and thoroughly clean the toy before rinsing to remove all traces of the cleanser. These items are more likely to promote infections and as such the use of a condom is recommended for insertable toys.

OTHER MATERIALS

There are a number of other materials on the market that are typically used for the "realistic" products. All of these items will include instructions advising how best to clean them. Typically they can simply be cleaned using a good antibacterial cleanser in a similar fashion to the items above however it’s worth taking the time to read the included guidance instructions and note any additional requirements.

Additionally, if a particular item has awkward hard to reach areas simply use a cotton wool bud soaked in alcohol or a suitable cleaner. Be sure to thoroughly rinse the sex toy afterwards.

That’s about it, keeping your sex toys clean not only ensures you’ll enjoy long term usage of them but also that you are protected from potentially harmful infections. The above practices take less than five minutes and should under no circumstances be neglected.

Enjoy.

NIAGARA FALLS, Ont. – Sexyboots, as she prefers to be called, admits she’ll be committing adultery in Niagara Falls this weekend.

But she won’t be cheating. In fact, her husband will likely be in the same room nodding with approval.

This is how they keep their marriage strong, she insists. And their swinger friends, who they know very well, tend to agree.

“Most of our friends have been married between 22 and 12 years, and have been in the lifestyle for at least five,” she said from her home in Toronto.

“People naturally lust after more than their spouse. Some act on it without consent and have affairs, some repress it, some acknowledge but don’t act on it.”

“I’m not advocating this for everyone – you have to be able to trust your spouse implicitly.”

Sexyboots, 37, and her husband will be among the hundreds of couples expected to attend this weekend’s Valentines in Niagara erotic convention and expo.

Organized by the swinger-friendly website OntarioCouples.com, it will be held in an undisclosed hotel to protect privacy and keep undesirables away.

Privacy is key to an event like this because some couples are still experimenting and don’t need the added scrutiny, Sexyboots said.

Others simply don’t know what they’d tell their friends and family if their secret was revealed.

“My family would not be shocked, partially because they know we have a good sex life (and) they are so liberal and open-minded,” she said. “His family would be appalled.”

Several seminars are scheduled for the expo, including pole-dancing classes and a tantric sex workshop. The entire three-day event costs $598 per couple.

While Sexyboots said sex is definitely in the air this weekend, it’s also a chance to do the “regular” couple thing and visit Niagara Falls.

“It’s a mini vacation for many of the couples. No job, kids, parents, in-laws, housework, errands – just you and your honey and whatever you want to do.”

That suits Niagara Falls Tourism just fine.

After an initial chuckle, executive director Anna Pierce pointed out swingers are tourists just like everyone else.

“We definitely welcome all visitors to Niagara Falls, and we’d like to feel that we’re open to any groups wanting to come and enjoy our city,” she said.

“As long as it stays in the comfort of their own suites, we’re fine. It’s a good, strong group of people, and we can definitely use the business.”