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Introducing Adult Sex Toys Into Your Relationship
Introducing adult sex toys into your relationship needn’t be embarrassing or uncomfortable for you or your partner. In this article we’ll examine the correct approach for the introduction of sex toys that will ultimately result in a better happier more fulfilling sex life.
The facts are simple, the maintenance of a fulfilling sex life is essential for the long term happiness of any couple. Old clichés such as "if it’s not happening in the bedroom, its not happening at all" couldn’t be more accurate. An unfulfilling sex life will ultimately lead to frustration and tension between the couple that then frequently spirals out of control resulting in a total breakdown of the sexual relationship. The worst case scenario is that either or both members of the relationship seek sexual gratification elsewhere. Far from ideal.
Adult sex toys offer a method by which a couple can enrich and enhance their sex lives without wandering outside of their existing relationship. By employing adult sex toys they not only enhance their own experience of sex but that of their partner resulting in a far happier relationship for both.
So what’s the correct approach?
Communication is essential in any relationship and when tackling the introduction of adult sex toys communication is particularly important. First and foremost it’s essential that you first discuss yours and your partner’s boundaries. Couple using sex toys for the first time may feel intimidated. As such it’s advisable that your first experiences with adult sex toys should not involve items with names like "the Kong"!
Typically couple will wish to start will smaller adult toys that can give pleasure to both parties. Therefore when building up your confidence with sex toys we’d first suggest using smaller egg type vibrators that can be used for clitoral stimulation or alternatively vibrating penis rings. Both varieties offer satisfaction to both parties without placing either party in a situation where they may feel intimidated and threatened.
As yours and your partners confidence grows with your new sex toys you can start to explore your fantasies and express this with larger more advanced sex toys. It’s all about breaking down those barriers; the idea is to gradually work yourself into a situation where you can use any sex toy that your mind desires without your partner feeling uncomfortable or inadequate. It’s essential to understand that sex toys are an accessory to sex when used in a relationship and not an alternative.
Whilst using your new adult sex toys the first few times keep the communication channels open, ask your partner if what you’re doing is working for them. Keep doing this until you are confident that the sex toy is being used to its full potential. Couples that have never used vibrators can be overwhelmed by sensations that are new to them so you may have to avoid the most sensitive areas initially. In time however you’ll wonder how you ever coped without them!
The important thing to remember is that adult sex toys are designed to enhance your enjoyment of sex. They should be fun, something to be enjoyed with your partner. The taboo’s that may have surrounded these toys historically have been broken down over the years with adult sex toys now available on the High Street. Boots have recently announced that they are considering stocking their stores with basic sex toys. The fact is adult sex toys are here to stay, they continue to improve and including them in your bedroom activities will only bring positives to your relationship.
The 5 Things Men Will Not Talk About When Dating
What is your partner really thinking when he goes quiet? What’s running through your date’s mind during the silences?
Having interviewed dozens of men on topics they rarely discuss, Maggie Hamilton, author of What Men Don’t Talk About, has discovered that men, like women, long to be heard, accepted, loved and understood by their partner.
"In our desire to grasp the differences between the sexes, we as a society have come to focus on what separates us, rather than what joins us together. The way ahead lies in realising that there are more qualities that bind us than separate us," writes Hamilton.
Here are 5 things that, according to Hamilton, prey on men’s minds:
1. Just as women need tenderness from men, so men need tenderness from their partner. They find it difficult to ask for tenderness, and are often afraid that the softness from women will come with strings attached. According to Rowan, 41: "Women need to love themselves first, so they can give generously around them, because neediness is never a good basis for a relationship."
2. Contrary to popular opinion, ’sex’ is not the reason men seek long-term relationships with a partner. Instead, the men Hamilton spoke to talked about being ’supported and held’, having ’somebody to share things with’, ‘encouragement’, ‘truth, honesty and a friend’, ‘a soul mate’.
3. When it comes to love, women often assume men hold the balance of power. But in relationships, men are often intimidated by women because men perceive their partners as holding the sexual power.
4. Many men feel the strain of having to appear strong all the time. Our society assumes men can handle whatever situation they are in, but there are times they need the help and protection of their partner. According to Hamilton, men find it extremely difficult to ask for help.
5. Men feel pressure to perform sexually with their partner. However, rather than seeing this as stressful and undesirable, many men see this pressure as a good thing. Matthew, 27, says: "Yes, men are under greater pressure. But so they should be! Men of my generation are better educated in this area. It’s what is expected of us, and also what we expect of ourselves."
