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8 Inviting Flirting Signs Women Will Send You
I bet you do! One joke I used to tell with my friends is how I wished women had a "magical light bulb" which shines every time they were attracted to me. It would take all the guesswork out of trying to figure out which women to approach.
Unfortunately there’s no such thing as a magical light bulb!
In order to understand if a woman has attraction, you have to study her body language. If you can detect certain signs of flirting when observing her, then you’ll know she’s attracted to you.
So what are these signs of flirting?
Well in the next few paragraphs, I’ll reveal 8 flirting cues which women send you. If you see ANY of these, you’ll know she’s attracted to you:
Flirting Cue #1: She’s laughing with her friends and looking back at you
Women understand the fact that men are attracted to girls who have a sense of humor. If you see a woman laughing with her friends and then quickly glancing in your direction, you know she’s trying to demonstrate a sense of humor.
By showing off this type of behavior she hopes you’ll pick up on her "fun lifestyle" and will be interested in her.
Flirting Cue #2: She keeps on looking right at you
One way women get men to approach them is to directly look at you and maintain prolonged eye contact. Some will even give a nice smile.
This is probably one of the most obvious flirting signs you’ll receive from a woman!
Flirting Cue #3: She’s checking you out
Yes it’s true…
Women often check out guys!
To detect if a girl is checking you out, watch if she does the ‘vertical scan’.
This is where she’ll look at your face and then moving her eyes from her feet to your heard.
This flirting signal means she’s found something attractive about you and would like see more.
Flirting Cue #4: She’ll try to look best for you
When a woman knows you’ve observed her, she’ll make a quick effort to look her best for you.
To do this, she’ll preen her hair and clothes.
What’s great is these actions are subconscious, so she has little control over doing this. When you see this flirting cue, you know she’s trying to look her best for you.
When you see any of these 4 flirting cues, approach and start talking to her!
Flirting Cue #5: She will open herself up to you
Now once you’ve approach her, you should try to detect a few different flirting cues to detect if she wants you to kiss her or take things to the next level.
The first sign to look for is if she’s trying to open herself up!
When a woman displays an "openness" with her body language, she’s demonstrating a classic sign of attraction.
Open body language means her arms will be spread and her wrists will be turned towards you.
Flirting Cue #6: She’ll stroke herself
When a woman is talking to you she’ll show a sign of flirting by stroking her neck or touching her hair. Also she might even her thigh!
I personally LOVE seeing these signs of flirting!
That’s because when a woman touches these sensitive areas, she’s probably thinking about what YOU could do to them.
Flirting Cue #7: She’ll draw closer to you
Another great sign of flirting is when a woman will draw closer to you during your conversation. She’ll do this to show a desire to create more intimacy during your conversation.
Another trick is she’ll lower her voice to have you draw closer to you!
When you see this, you’re receiving an incredible sign of attraction!
Flirting Cue #8: She’ll scan your face including your eyes and lips
This final flirting cue demonstrates a desire that she wants to be kissed!
When a woman moves her eyes back and forth between your eyes and mouth, she’s showing a classic sign of flirting where she’s thinking about you kissing her.
When you see this flirting sign, act right away…
Start kissing her!
Once you do this, you’ll be on the road towards making things more intimate!
Women give subtle signals to men which indicate attraction.
When you take the time to look for flirting cues, you’ll discover she’s sending signals which mean she wants to get to know you better and make things more intimate!
So pay attention and you’ll be happy with the results!
When Does Swinging Become Cheating
It is a myth that choosing an open relationship, or swinging, means that you are allowed to cheat. Couples living "The Lifestyle" define what their commitment means to them and both parties are expected to respect that agreement. It isn’t that different from what many couples do in monogamous relationships. One couple might think it is perfectly fine for each person to view porn or go to strip clubs while these things would constitute cheating to another couple. A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn’t feel comfortable telling your partner about what you have done then it is cheating.
Anne and Mike are a couple in their 50’s I met at a convention in Orlando who had been living the lifestyle for over a decade. They considered themselves to be fluid monogamous, which meant that they were able to fool around with other people freely as long as there were no fluids exchanged. They agreed to this in part because of concerns about sexually transmitted diseases but also because they enjoyed the idea of that part of the sexual act being special to them. Mike came home one night and confessed that he had been having unprotected intercourse with a new partner breaking their agreement and in effect cheating on her. They were able to overcome this betrayal over time but they had to work hard to rebuild trust. It was hard for some people to understand why Anne was so upset. If she was okay with her partner having sex with other people then what was the difference? But it isn’t that simple. At the heart of any open relationship is trust that the other person will act responsible and respect your primary bond. Without that trust what is the purpose of having a swinging relationship instead of just a series of casual sexual encounters?
If you are new to swinging or have been doing it for a long time it is important to have periodic conversations about what is acceptable within the bounds of the relationship. Talk about who is, and isn’t, an acceptable partner, for instance if it’s okay for someone to get involved with an ex or with someone who is a close friend of yours. You may be okay with the idea of your partner having sex with another person, unless that other person is you cousin or best friend. Now is the time to draw those boundaries. If there are any acts that are off limits with new people then that is also important to spell out ahead of time. Another common boundary in swinging relationships is that there must be prior permission granted before the other person can begin a sexual relationship with someone new. I’ve even seen some couples that only allow a swap or swing when they are able to stay in the same room as it goes on. There is no right or wrong way to do this. It is a lifestyle choice. But if you don’t have the rules spelled out before hand then the result is usually feeling of hurt and betrayal.
What happens if you feel yourself tempted to cheat in your open relationship? When you first have those pangs of temptation then go to your partner and talk about it. It’s possible that they will agree to a change in rule in this circumstance that solves your problem. But even if they don’t often times just talking out the situation can help you understand what it was about the temptation that attracted you in the first place. The thrill of the forbidden is sometimes what you are really craving and talking about it makes it less exciting. But cheating is never the right thing to do. Even if the other person never finds out about it you will carry around the guilt of what happened. If you are unable to be satisfied within the confines of the relationship you and your partner agree to then it is better to leave it and let them find someone more suited to them then to cheat.
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