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Comedian Carlos Mencia breaks it down for for all the ladies out there in his own unique, “you didn’t make YOU come baby”.

I hate to say this… Sometimes sex with a woman can get boring!

I know, you probably think I’m completely nuts for saying this. But it’s true. If you’ve been having sex with one woman for awhile, then you’ve probably tried every conceivable position and technique. Even if you’re with the most beautiful girl in the world, there will be a time when things have grown stagnant.

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Everyone at some point has probably wondered if they are any good in bed, or if there is something that they could be doing better. Sex is something that many people assume will come naturally to them, and for some people it does, but for other people they are always wondering if there is something that they could do to “be better” in the sack. If you have these thoughts, take some comfort in the fact that you are not alone. But, don’t let these thoughts take away the fun and spontaneity that you can experience sexually!

A lot of the time, you simply need to let go and stop worrying. If you are with someone that you like, you need to come across confident and the rest will happen naturally. When you sort of let go and let things happen naturally, you’ll find that not only will you have a lot more fun and enjoy yourself more, your partner will also enjoy is or herself more. The key to being great in bed and pleasing your partner is being able to let go and not over thinking things. When you think about things too much, you may become mechanical, and you just won’t be having much fun and your partner will definitely pick up on that!

If you have a hard time relaxing about how good you may or may not be in the sack, you need to think about how well you are able to communicate with the person you are having sex with. If you are able to discuss likes and dislikes with your sexual partners, you will know that you can please them. If you know what your partner likes and expects, you’ll find that it is a bit easier to relax and just enjoy yourself.

You should be able to have fun when you are having sex, it shouldn’t be a process that you have over thought or have rehearsed. Most people will tell you that the best sex is fun sex, where they can just let go and really enjoy living in the moment. If you aren’t sure that you have the best technique, feel free to read books and even attend classes about how you can be a better lover. Just remember that the person next to you in bed is there because they like you, and they want you to be yourself.

As a swinger, I get to chat to many folks about sex. The interesting thing is that a lot of folks I chat with inform me that they believe others are enjoying a much better sex life than they are. Usually they say that their sex life is very boring and there is no excitement. The longer the folks has been together the less exciting their sex seems. Naturally, there are people that have a great sex life and have been together forever. These couples are rare in my experience and usually swingers.

A study recently discovered that after a couple of years of marriage, the wife’s interest in sex had shrunk fifty percent. There was also a major decline in intercourse.

What can one implement to heat up ones sex life?

First: Spouse bonding. Women usually enjoy this style of sex. The emotional relating with your partner is the most important. Usually, partners when they first were in lust have a lot of spouse connection in sex. Eye gazing, touchy feely and fluids flowing and the sex is really fantastic! It just flows and there is lots of hugging, kissing and foreplay.

So how do you get more of this fun sex with your lover. One idea in sex to get more out of this concept is to keep your eyes open while having sex. You will find most couples don’t even look at their partner. Eyes unite us and get the sexual juices flowing. for the more adventurous, I recommend opening your eyes while you orgasm. Men find this to be a challenge yet you can do it!

Second: Sex is like a trance. With this idea you go inwards and is all about ones sexual fantasies, sexual feelings or a sex dream. Your eye lids are shut as the sexual connection with your spouse is not necessary. Men like to visualize sex in their minds.

I had a partner who liked to go into another world. I just felt I like a taxi driver taking her to her sexual fantasies. Since I didn’t get to join her sexual adventure, I didn’t feel sexually satisfied. Touching her was one method that I found frustrating. I told her this and she did starting me also.

Third: Sexual Role Play. This is a lot of fun. You can act out a sexual fantasy or become a sexual healer or doctor. You could be an animal. Bondage falls into this version of sex play. This is usually more challenging for folks. However sexual role playing can really rev up your sex experiences.

Fourth: Swinging (my favorite) Swinging is the most exciting sex I have ever experienced! There is nothing like "strange" to get the juices really flowing. However, swinging is only for couples who are very secure in their relationship. If you are looking to swinging to save your marriage, forget it! It is way too dangerous for couples in trouble.

Swinging is only for viable for great partnership who are looking to share sex with others and enjoy their partner having sex with others. If you want to check out the swinging world go to our Swinger Sites Reviews site. There you will find our favorite sites for swinging.

If your sex is boring, and you are really committed. Ask your sexual partner to try something new. Try having your partner take the sexual lead in this adventure. Sexual experimenting can be fun, enjoy yourself!

Making love to a woman is a skill that most men think they have. But in truth there are plenty of women who are left unsatisfied by their partner’s performance!

Unfortunately what commonly happens is men get their sexual advice friends or from pornography. As a result, they have a distorted view of what sex is actually about.

If you really want to know how to make love, you should follow a PROVEN system that is guaranteed to give pleasure to a woman.

In this article, I’ll discuss a step-by-step system that many guys use to have great sex:

Step 1- Put her in ‘The Mood’

Before you have sex, you have to put your woman in the mood. This involves setting up the right kind of environment which will enhance her pleasure.

To put her in the mood, you should darken the room, light some candles and put on good music. Your focus should be to create an atmosphere which emphasizes sensuality.

Step 2- Use foreplay

Foreplay is one of the most important things to learn about how to make love to a woman. Using foreplay is the best way to transition from a conversation to having sex.

Typically foreplay involves kissing, "heavy petting" and sensual massages. The rule of thumb is to really focus on her pleasure and start building up intensity.

Step 3- Give her oral sex

Towards the end of foreplay, you need to start giving her oral sex. Start slowly and use your tongue and fingers.

Since women like different things in oral sex, try to experiment with various oral sex techniques. When you see her get really excited, continue to do whatever is getting her into it.

Step 4- Tease her

Once you’ve brought her to the pinnacle of pleasure from oral sex, you should start to have sex. Now most guys will just start having sex without any thought. This is a mistake!

Instead of going right for sex, you should start to tease her. What you should do is go slowly and start to have sex, then stop. Keep doing this till she goes crazy and practically pulls you inside her.

Step 5- Start slowly and build up intensity

Now once you’ve having sex, it’s important to change paces (and positions). Again your focus is to concentrate on her pleasure and make sure she’s really enjoying herself.

What really works is to build up speed then pull back to a slow and sensual pace. Keep doing this pattern till both of you can’t take it anymore.

Knowing how to make love to a woman is an important skill to have. If you can follow the five step process I described in this article, you’ll instantly become the best lover she’s ever had.

Now all you have to do is go find a woman to practice your new skills!

It is a myth that choosing an open relationship, or swinging, means that you are allowed to cheat. Couples living "The Lifestyle" define what their commitment means to them and both parties are expected to respect that agreement. It isn’t that different from what many couples do in monogamous relationships. One couple might think it is perfectly fine for each person to view porn or go to strip clubs while these things would constitute cheating to another couple. A good rule of thumb is if you wouldn’t feel comfortable telling your partner about what you have done then it is cheating.

Anne and Mike are a couple in their 50’s I met at a convention in Orlando who had been living the lifestyle for over a decade. They considered themselves to be fluid monogamous, which meant that they were able to fool around with other people freely as long as there were no fluids exchanged. They agreed to this in part because of concerns about sexually transmitted diseases but also because they enjoyed the idea of that part of the sexual act being special to them. Mike came home one night and confessed that he had been having unprotected intercourse with a new partner breaking their agreement and in effect cheating on her. They were able to overcome this betrayal over time but they had to work hard to rebuild trust. It was hard for some people to understand why Anne was so upset. If she was okay with her partner having sex with other people then what was the difference? But it isn’t that simple. At the heart of any open relationship is trust that the other person will act responsible and respect your primary bond. Without that trust what is the purpose of having a swinging relationship instead of just a series of casual sexual encounters?

If you are new to swinging or have been doing it for a long time it is important to have periodic conversations about what is acceptable within the bounds of the relationship. Talk about who is, and isn’t, an acceptable partner, for instance if it’s okay for someone to get involved with an ex or with someone who is a close friend of yours. You may be okay with the idea of your partner having sex with another person, unless that other person is you cousin or best friend. Now is the time to draw those boundaries. If there are any acts that are off limits with new people then that is also important to spell out ahead of time. Another common boundary in swinging relationships is that there must be prior permission granted before the other person can begin a sexual relationship with someone new. I’ve even seen some couples that only allow a swap or swing when they are able to stay in the same room as it goes on. There is no right or wrong way to do this. It is a lifestyle choice. But if you don’t have the rules spelled out before hand then the result is usually feeling of hurt and betrayal.

What happens if you feel yourself tempted to cheat in your open relationship? When you first have those pangs of temptation then go to your partner and talk about it. It’s possible that they will agree to a change in rule in this circumstance that solves your problem. But even if they don’t often times just talking out the situation can help you understand what it was about the temptation that attracted you in the first place. The thrill of the forbidden is sometimes what you are really craving and talking about it makes it less exciting. But cheating is never the right thing to do. Even if the other person never finds out about it you will carry around the guilt of what happened. If you are unable to be satisfied within the confines of the relationship you and your partner agree to then it is better to leave it and let them find someone more suited to them then to cheat.

Where people meet up in car parks and watch each other having sex. Sometime other people join in, but its mainly about watching and getting off on it!