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Embracing Your Fetishes and Fantasies
The word fetish is often met by looks of disgust or even embarrassment, but why? What’s wrong with having a particular fetish? There are literally thousands of websites and magazines that are dedicated to specific fetishes, which means they are out there and are more common than not. If these websites and magazines dedicated to fantasies and such didn’t have an audience they wouldn’t continue. The fact of the matter is that there is nothing wrong with having a particular fetish or fantasy. As long as your fetish doesn’t hurt anyone, or at least anyone that doesn’t want to be hurt, than there is nothing to be embarrassed about. When you embrace what you like and act on it in a healthy way, it can actually be liberating and make your sexual experiences and the experiences of your partners better.
Everyone likes sex a bit differently. These differences include positions, pillow talk, and foreplay, among others. Just like there are things that we all like a bit differently about the actual act of sex, there are differences between what turns us on. Some people like feet, others are particularly attracted to breasts, butts, or perhaps it’s more involved like an S&M or bondage type fetish. These are all very common fetishes and fantasies and as long as you keep them to yourself or share them with others that feel the same, then there is no harm done.
The problem is that many people consider a fetish "deviant" so they become ashamed of it and they don’t share it with anyone, even those that they are closest to. While you may not want to share your personal fantasies and sexual pleasures at the water cooler at work, you should be able to share them with the people that you are intimate with. Again, this is assuming that your fantasy or fetish wouldn’t hurt or scare anyone!
Sexual exploration is a good thing. Too many people take sex and the fantasies and fetishes associated with them too seriously. You should be able to have fun when you have sex, and really let go. If this isn’t the case for you, maybe you should loosen up and share your desires a bit. Sex is a freeing experience, and if it isn’t, you might just be doing something wrong! So, embrace those fetishes and fantasies and do it in the name of becoming a better lover.
Fetish
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of nonsexual objects, actions or non genital anatomy.
