Comedian Carlos Mencia breaks it down for for all the ladies out there in his own unique, “you didn’t make YOU come baby”.

Lube now comes in many flavours’ and it’s for both men and women! We all know that women enjoy there sex much more when they are moist and it avoid any soreness or irritation. But lot of women don’t realise the fact is that men enjoy their sex much more when there is something to lubricate the motion. Lube can come from a tube or the more natural saliva and both are appreciated for that quick hand job. And if your sex life is on the more adventurous side and you enjoy any form of anal play, then lube is a forgone prerequisite.

Toys are not just for women, men like them to, both using them on there partner and having them used on themselves. It’s a very intimate act, but once a women has shown her partner how to use her toys and they are introduced in to your mutual masturbation practices, they can lead to a heighten sexual experience for both partners. Remember toys are not limited to dildos and vibrators, which are mainly female toys; cock rings, etc are available to assist in the sexual experience for both men and women.

Lingerie, again this is not just the domain of women now days. Whether it is ‘role play’ costumes or exotic underwear that makes you feel sexy, its function in the sexual encounter is both tactile and visual. The tactile sensations make you feel sexy; the visual aspect demonstrates that you are sexy and ready for it, without having to ask. Unlike a lot of men, most women are self conscious of their bodies and wearing exotic underwear as an open display of ‘availability’ to their partner can be a daunting task. Well ladies, this may not be headline news, but you partner will appreciate every effort you make in this department, not only does it turn him on, but it makes a no nonsense statement that you are ready for sex which can’t be misinterpreted.

So there’s a bit of back ground on lube, toys and lingerie, why not introduce it to your sex life?

Why it appeals to you: It’s a power game and “forbidden” sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter.

What you’ll need: A “sexy secretary”-type outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.

The action plan:
The trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You’re seducing him, and he’s struggling ‑- torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mom say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you’re going to fix a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge room with your drinks. He sits on the couch, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hiking your skirt high. He’s not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you’d ask your son’s friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another ‑- saucier ‑- level. Tell him you don’t think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you’re attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic ‑- and tries to hide his erection.

At that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband’s. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.

In between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he’s ever made love to a woman before. He’ll squeak out a no. Ask him if he’d like to make love to you, and tell him it’s okay ‑- you won’t tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You’re still the grown-up ‑- so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his pants. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex ‑- stopping just short of orgasm.

Undress yourself theatrically while maintaining eye contact. Let his eyes caress your body, but don’t let him touch you. Leave on your high heels and stockings. Pose provocatively and caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. Then undress him, kissing each bit of his flesh as it becomes exposed. When you’re both naked, lead him to the bed, then explain exactly how to make a woman scream in ecstasy. Each touch, kiss, fondle and thrust is his very first, remember. The fantasy ends when he completely loses control ‑- which should happen within about, ohhh, three minutes if you’ve played your part properly!

Fantasy #2: He’s your sex slave

Why it appeals to you: Having someone at your sexual beck and call has obvious benefits. You don’t have to worry about the “no, you first honey” niceties of sex; it’s all about your pleasure, and your pleasure alone.

Why he’ll love it too: Something happens to women during this scenario; they start suggesting things they wouldn’t dare during “normal” lovemaking. Who wouldn’t love a wild woman in his bed?

What you’ll need:

• A leather jacket worn over black underwear
• Stockings and a push-up bra
• Knee-high or thigh-high boots
• A blindfold, scarves or old stockings to tie him up
• A wooden spoon or hairbrush

The action plan:
Start by ordering him to do small tasks ‑- get you a drink, fluff up the pillows, give you a foot massage. Don’t ask, order. Make it clear that you are the boss and he is not to misbehave or he’ll be punished (think of a mild punishment beforehand, like spanking him with the wooden spoon). Try to keep an expressionless face. No Are you okay?, Did I hurt you?, Are you sure you’re enjoying this? This isn’t about him ‑- it’s all about you!

Once you’re both in character, order him to sit or lie down, face turned away from you. Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back, then push him forward into a submissive position. He’s now naked, bound and blindfolded ‑- completely at your mercy! Grab your wooden spoon or brush and administer a few short, sharp whacks on his bottom. Start caressing and stroking his bottom, the backs of his thighs, reach between his legs and caress his testicles. Wait until he’s moaning for more… then stop.

Tell him it’s up to you to decide what he gets and when, and he has to satisfy you first. Turn him around and order him to do whatever you’d like. No matter how pleasurable what he’s doing to you might be, push him away when he seems to be enjoying himself the most. Grab his hair, hold it tightly and tell him he’s been a bad boy. Administer a few more smacks on his bottom with the spoon. If you’re into talking dirty, keep a running commentary of what’s happening. If he’s blindfolded, paint a picture of what you’re seeing: Look at you, you’re begging for it. I bet you’d love to be untied. But you’re my slave. You have to do every single thing I say. Do you understand me? Are you going to behave? The fantasy ends with you announcing ‑- dramatically ‑- that he’s now free… to service you.

Fantasy #3: You’re abducted by a stranger

Why it appeals to you: The “safe rape” is a very common female fantasy ‑- but it’s such a far cry from the real thing it seems ridiculous to even call it rape. Passionate and forceful, but never violent or painful, the “rapes” in our head differ because we’re always in control, even though we’re being “forced” to submit.

Why he’ll love it too: Being the physical aggressor is taboo for men. Being given a “harmless” outlet to let loose some deeply primitive urges without being punished is appealing.

What you’ll need to act it out: A quiet bedroom and a mirror

The action plan: You’re naked while he’s dressed in street clothes (a dark suit would play up the mysterious stranger element). You’re in your bedroom, admiring your body with your hands and your eyes in a full-length mirror. He sneaks up silently behind you, covers your eyes with his hands and says, Shhh! I won’t hurt you. But you have to do exactly as I say. You freeze and pretend to be terrified. You’re not sure what to do, knowing that he’ll overpower you if you try to get away. He waits for you to calm down and for your breathing to become regular again. Meanwhile, you’re conscious of the sensation of your naked skin against the roughness of his clothes ‑- and you’re oddly excited by it.

He tells you in a low, suggestive voice, that you should draw your curtains before getting undressed at night. He’s been watching and fantasizing and masturbating while watching you for weeks ‑- and he just had to have you. He knows that your boyfriend isn’t due home for hours and that no one else is coming to rescue you either. You remain motionless. You’re torn between wanting desperately to be saved and being sexually fascinated by the idea of someone wanting you so badly that they’d risk everything. You don’t say a word. Still standing behind you, he keeps one hand over your eyes and uses the other to stroke your breasts, your stomach, your neck and your thighs. You’re not sure how to react. You can feel yourself starting to respond physically, even though you know you shouldn’t.

As he touches you, he starts telling you exactly what he plans to do to you ‑- in detail. It seems as if he knows exactly what turns you on and talks just the way you want him to, be it seductive and suggestive, or coarse and explicit. When he feels you begin to weaken, he removes his hands from your eyes and you look in the mirror to see him standing behind you, hands on your breasts, his mouth buried in the nape of your neck, kissing you. He’s even sexier than you’d dared hope. Your resistance wanes, but you refuse to let him know you’re turned on.

Just when you’re beginning to relax, he pulls your arms gently behind your back, holding them together at the wrist and using his other hand to continue exploring.

He maintains eye contact in the mirror and challenges you to tell him you’re not enjoying what he’s doing. At first, you shake your head and say you’re not. But he tells you that you have no choice; you’re in his power.

You resist everything he tries… at first. Then you let him continue. You don’t admit that you’re erotically charged, but your body is giving you away. You’re ready for him. Come on, you want it, he whispers while licking, touching and stimulating you until you can’t take it anymore. Finally you let him penetrate. You give in and leave all the initial innocence behind ‑- resulting in a climax so powerful the neighbors bang on the ceiling!

The same way we’re judged by our number of partners, we’re also unfairly judged by some men if we like ‘dirty’ sex. Ask most women what their favourite sexual fantasy is and they’ll offer up something like “On a plane”. Yeah right. I know what women’s sex fantasies are because I research them for books and it ain’t the old ‘making love on the beach to a glorious sunset’ which tops the list.

Women’s fantasies are just as ribald, outrageous and kinky than most men’s. It’s just that we know he’d be shocked if he heard them, so we keep our mouths shut. (If you don’t believe me, pick up any of Nancy Friday’s fantasy books Women On Top or My Secret Garden and read one out to your mother.)

Point is, if you know you won’t be judged no matter what you suggest, you’ll be far more likely to suggest doing something interesting in bed. Hopefully your partner falls into this category. I definitely think you should suggest some ‘tie-up’. Just be aware of all the above when you do it.

Tracey Cox is an international sex, body language and relationships expert as well as a TV presenter. She is well-known for her TV shows on sex and relationships as well as her range of best-selling books.

A former associate editor of Cosmopolitan (Australia) and radio show host, Tracey has appeared on Oprah, CNN and The Today Show in the US, as well as numerous prime-time chat shows in the UK and world-wide.

Her TV credits include The Sex Inspectors (Ch4 and HBO in the US), Would Like to Meet (BBC2), Under One Roof (ITV) and Date Patrol (Discovery in the US).

She has an academic background in psychology and travels the world, doing television, radio and print interviews on her specialist subjects.

1. Scream someone else’s name.
2. Admit you have an STD—after you’ve already had sex.
3. Ask to borrow money.
4. Watch TV, unless it’s porn.
5. Mention your mother, father, or any other relative, for that matter.
6. Baby talk (example: “Put your wee wee in my no-no place.”)
7. Snort like a pig.
8. Roll your eyes because you’re bored, not ecstatic.
9. Puke, fart, or you know.
10. Cry.
11. Point and laugh, no matter where you’re pointing.
12. Ask if your dog/cat/pet can hop on the bed.
13. Complain about a body part, whether it’s yours or his.
14. Make your grocery list.
15. Itch like a bitch.
16. Check your Blackberry, write a text, or Twitter.
17. Mention your time in prison.
18. Try to tell a joke. Knock-knock?
19. Make fun of your partner.
20. Compare the sex to the way your ex did it.
21. Set a stopwatch.
22. Do an impression of their O face.

The humble hand job comes into its own – literally – during sex in public places. Apart from kissing, using your hands is the lowest-risk sexual activity – and since it’s how lots of us masturbate, the genitals respond nicely to the right type of touch. “Right” usually means she should do it harder and he should go softer (it’s what each sex is most used to). Not much time? Go for a superfast orgasm for her by positioning her (sitting or standing) in front of you. Rest one palm on the top of her pubic bone and press down firmly, pushing forward, pulling back or moving in circles. Next, insert (well-lubricated) fingers: one inside her vagina, the other in her anus. It’s a three-way she won’t mind you suggesting – or repeating. Blow him away (in all senses) by trying this technique: Twist your hands in opposite directions as you move up and down (one clockwise, one counterclockwise) or make two fists around his penis, hold them centrally, then move one downward and the other upward. Use one-word questions to ask for feedback (harder? faster?) so he only has to answer yes or no. Keep the rhythm constant, building up to a fast speed, then slow it down dramatically before moving back up again. Repeat several times, letting him hover on the brink, before tipping him over with a decided flourish.

…Rediscover Kissing

Romance isn’t hijacked by time. A 30-second meeting of mouths is all it takes to turn a quickie into sweet, tender lovemaking. Kissing is the first thing to go in a long-term relationship: Resurrect it and you’ll save more than just your sex life. But it’s not just dulled passion or over familiarity that stops some couples from puckering up. If you actually don’t like the way your partner kisses, you’ll be more than happy to plunk it in the “things we used to do, but what long-term couple still does?” basket. There’s a simple but effective game you can try to fix this. It’s called “kisses around the world,” and it’s best suggested when you’re both a little giggly and buzzed and snuggling up after a great night out. Give your partner a little peck, then say “I wonder if people kiss differently around the world? I wonder how Eskimos really kiss. Probably like this…” Then proceed to kiss like an Eskimo, rubbing noses with him. He’ll laugh, so it’s easy enough from there to say “What about Italians, I think they’d kiss like this…” before you launch into that one. “How would a French person kiss?” you ask playfully, letting him in on the game. From there it’s simply a case of saying “God, that French/Italian/Swedish kiss was hot. Can you do it again?” The next time he kisses you, whisper, “Do it Italian style” and voila! You’ve transformed an abysmal kisser into a great one ‑- with no one’s feelings hurt in the process! If you can’t reach each other’s lips during certain quickie positions, bite, kiss or lick the body part closest to you. The more aroused we are, the more dulled our pain receptors ‑- the reason why a nip on the neck feels erotic during sex but just hurts the rest of the time.

…Up Your Portfolio

The average couple alternates between the same three to four positions each time they have intercourse, despite there being more than 600 documented positions to choose from. Before you nominate yourselves for Sad Couple of the Year by fitting right into this category, seek refuge in the fact that virtually all are variants of five basic positions anyway. Besides, certain positions suit certain situations ‑- and moods. Tackling that upside-down one that makes the blood whoosh straight to your head could be just the thing when you’re feeling energized and adventurous. Not so appealing when you’ve got a thumping headache and have just worked a 12-hour day. Quickies provide a great way to try out new, more difficult positions so you can expand your position portfolio. If you don’t have to stay at it for long, you’re much more likely to attempt something more challenging! Too tired to do anything but missionary? Spice up an old favorite by adding a twist: During intercourse, try mirroring your mouth action to his thrusting, so your tongues are imitating the action of his penis. Once you’ve mirrored the thrusting speed, you can slow him down or speed him up as you please by simply altering your tongue speed. He’ll subconsciously try to keep pace.

…Make the Most of Her on Top

Given that thrusting is usually his job, some women aren’t confident masters of the old in-and-out and struggle using just their thigh muscles. Again, far less threatening if she knows it’s just a quickie and she’s not in it for the long haul; it’s much more likely she’ll give it the old college try. Next time, get her to make like a frog and squat so her feet are on the floor ‑- it allows much more leverage. Switch her over so she’s on top when she’s feeling body-proud, horny as hell and in the mood to be boss. If she needs further convincing tell her this: Rear-entry or any position where she’s sitting or squatting over you works best to stimulate a patch of supersensitive skin about two-thirds of the way up from the vaginal entrance on the front wall of the vagina. Nicknamed the “A” spot, it’s way up there and hard to reach with fingers, but deep penetration positions sometimes do the trick. Once she’s had her (first) orgasm, switch back into missionary. It’s got a goody-goody, prissy reputation, but there’s a reason why most of us use it a lot of the time: There’s full body and eye contact and you can touch faces and hold hands. An intimate ending to a lusty start. Slide a pillow under her hips to turn predictable into predictably pleasurable.

Women love to look pretty, men love to look at pretty women, so what’s the problem here? Granted, most men’s ultimate goal is to get their women naked, but throw into the equation a tightly laced thong teddy with a skirted garter and fishnet hose – heck, getting there is half the fun!
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Lingerie comes in many styles and materials and is conveniently available online (for those of us who don’t particularly want to make a trip to Victoria’s Secret). Online lingerie retailers ship their products discreetly in plain boxes so as not to spill the beans to the neighbors, your wife, or the person you want to surprise. And there’s good news for those men who like their women big; plenty of stores out there that offer plus size lingerie, up to 3X!

With all this in mind, men need to become educated consumers in a world of lingerie that is primarily dominated by women. It is for this reason that I have taken it upon myself to write this informative “Man’s Guide to Women’s Lingerie”.

Corsets and Bustier: a history of lingerie

As recently as the 1830’s, the corset was thought of as a medical necessity. Being that women were the weaker sex, they needed the support of a laced corset to hold them up for any length of time. Girls from the ages of two or three began their lives being strapped in daily to a tight laced corset. Unfortunately for the women, by the time they reached their prime they were unable to stand or sit upright for very long without getting the “vapors”.

Early corsets were made from canvas, (plenty of that around from all the sailing ships) and had laces all the way up the back pulled so tight as to make it darn near impossible to draw a deep breath. Needless to say, the prevailing fashion (or fetish) of the day was a very small waist line.

Today’s modern corset is made from softer and suppler materials such as silk, satin and lace, (as well as leather) to name a few. It is designed to accentuate a woman’s curves, not to alter them. For many men there is nothing more arousing than the sight of a willing accomplice all dressed up in a tight little laced up leather corset, and it’s a turn on for women too!

Out of the corset evolved the “Bustier”, predecessor to the modern day brazier. It seems that men even back then liked to see their women’s breasts pushed up and squeezed together! A bustier is basically an underwire bra that extends down to the waistline. Traditionally with a lace up front, today’s bustiers can fasten in a variety of ways. Zippers, snaps, hooks and eyes, (remember the trouble we had undoing bras in high school?) even Velcro seems to get the job done. Keep in mind the fastenings when considering a lingerie purchase. The removal of these garments can at times try a man’s patience. Remember the times when you’ve been asked to take it easy and slow down? Do it now, and savor the moment!

Another popular lingerie design is what’s known as the “Teddy”. Similar to a corset in design, a teddy is a one piece suit that starts out as a bustier, extends down between the legs as a thong, and ends up fastening to the back of the bodice. Simple by definition, teddies can take the form of something resembling a harness, to a full fledged zippered, hooked, and laced corset with an attached thong. Many teddies come with garter belts attached, adding endless possibilities for some naughty, bad little girls’ psychopathic imagination to run wild with.

For the truly innocent, perpetual virgin nice girl look, consider the “Baby Doll”. A short mini hanging to the waist that can be worn with or without the matching bra and panties, the baby doll is usually made from some sheer, lightweight material with varying degrees of transparency. The baby doll lingerie style gets its name from; well…you figure it out!

Today, ladies lingerie is easier than ever to shop for. Do a search on lingerie and you’ll find a multitude of reputable lingerie dealers and merchants. Browse through their catalogs and you’re sure to find something that stirs your, um… interest.

Sizing is an issue that must be dealt with, and a good lingerie site will have size charts easily accessible. While lingerie is generally pretty forgiving size wise, (a lot of lingerie is marked one size fits all) you should know at a minimum if she’s a small, medium or large. If you see sizes like 32, 38, etc….why don’t you just ask her her size!

When shopping for lingerie, keep in mind that a gift of lingerie should stimulate both you and your partner. Get her something that you like, and don’t be afraid to push the envelope! Lingerie encompasses a huge variety of styles; from a couple of pasties and a thong, to an elegant satin and lace gown with matching bra and panties! Do not overlook the possibilities of Leather Lingerie. Leather has become mainstream and is not just for bikers and sado/masochists any more. Women love the feel of leather on their bare skin, and peeling off a tight leather teddy is a real treat!

Lingerie for your baby and you can’t lose! Give her a gift of lingerie, and you do yourself a favor! The gift that keeps on giving – all year round!

I know, you probably think I’m completely nuts for saying this. But it’s true. If you’ve been having sex with one woman for awhile, then you’ve probably tried every conceivable position and technique. Even if you’re with the most beautiful girl in the world, there will be a time when things have grown stagnant.

So what’s the answer?

Well it’s simple! You must find a way to spice things up in the bedroom.

How do you do this?

Well you start play sex games with your women. By doing this, you bring variety to your sex in a fun and unique way.

If you’re not sure where to start, you can try playing these three sex games with your woman:

1 – Keep your hands to yourself

During sex we’re conditioned to use our hands to enhance the experience. So this tip requires a bit of self control.

All you have to do is NOT use your hands during sex. At no point during your sexual encounter you’re allowed to touch one another. While the concept may seem simple, it’s actually pretty hard to accomplish.

By not using your hands, you’ll have to rely on other parts of your body. For instance, you’ll need to resort to touching with your mouth, chest or intimate parts. When you get creative you’ll do wonders for enhancing your sex life.

2 – Don’t say a word

Not speaking to one another during sex is a powerful technique for concentrating on your pleasure. All you have to do is make a pact to not say a word during the entire time and simply focus on the task at hand.

Why?

Well during sex, guys and girls tend to do too much talking. By forcing yourself to not speak, you’ll enhance your sexual experience.

What’s interesting about this concept is you’re able to completely focus on the physical experience of the entire sex session. When you don’t say a word during sex you’ll have to rely on your other four senses- touch, taste, sight and hearing. Then you’ll be able to heighten one other’s sensations.

3 – Show her your cards

Breaking out a deck of cards is a great way to spice things up. Now it might seem weird to you, but playing a sex game with cards can help you really build up some sexual tension.

The game is simple…

You go into the bedroom fully dressed and pull out a deck of cards. Then you and your woman pull one card from the deck. Whoever has the high card gets to make a demand from the other person.

This game can be a great way to undress one another, do foreplay and initiate sex. As the evening progresses, you use the cards to decide what to do next. This card game is a great way to experiment with different things and explore uncharted territories.

Sex games are a great way to spice up an otherwise boring sex life. If you can incorporate these 3 sex games into your life, you’ll find a unique way to please your woman.

During cunnilingus man should never rush – that doesn’t give any positive feelings for woman. Many women find it exciting when man is teasing her with tongue – slowly and quietly. Then a pleasure comes step by step giving amazing feeling for her. There are a big percentage of women who achieve orgasm from oral sex, but not all – so people do oral sex in two different ways:

1. First is for women who do not achieve orgasm from cunnilingus. When a woman belongs to this category – oral sex is a good way to warm her up, before having regular sex. There are many couples when man achieves orgasm quickly and woman needs more time, then oral sex may help to solve a problem of orgasm time between partners.
2. Second type of women, are those, who easily achieve orgasm from cunnilingus. This is an exciting way to make love with partner and diverse sexual life. Besides, it is safer – women will never become pregnant from only oral sex. However, it is not very easy doing cunnilingus to help woman achieve orgasm – a man has to know what his woman like, and which parts are the most sensitive for her. Some people are saying that oral sex for both man and woman is a fine art of sex.

Everyone must find how they like things done to them, and this is a very personal thing. Every woman is different and oral sex will need to be different for them. Some woman may like additional stimulation during oral sex such as one or two fingers into her vagina, stimulate erogenous zone at the roof of her vagina, touch breasts.

Some people are still afraid of trying oral sex because of natural smell vagina, so there is one simple way to avoid it – make sure you go to a shower and wash yourself before having sex (both men and women should do that).

Moreover some ladies, mostly those who never tried oral sex, are afraid that man may not like how she looks “there” or natural smell of that place. Due to this reason, she may not let a man to do cunnilingus to her. That is a personal thing of every couple and it can be changed after sincere talking about it – if a man is smart enough he will let her feel how much he wants to taste her “there” and give her incredible pleasure.

As I mentioned before every single women will be different, and before giving her satisfaction doing oral sex, man should be ready to accept her wishes otherwise doing cunnilingus the way man likes – may be useless for woman. Then there is no point to practice oral sex at all. The difference between normal sex and oral sex pleasure for women is that if a couple is making love in traditional way – they both feel pleasure, but during cunnilingus – woman is the main object that needs to be satisfied. That is why man has to pay all his attention to satisfy her, otherwise women will not …