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Living Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies
Sex life feeling a bit stale? Well, there’s one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it’s your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favorites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you’ve had in years? Just follow this step-by-step guide.
Fantasy #1: He’s a virgin ‑- and you’re Mrs. Robinson
Why it appeals to you: It’s a power game and “forbidden” sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter.
What you’ll need: A “sexy secretary”-type outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.
The action plan:
The trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You’re seducing him, and he’s struggling ‑- torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mom say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you’re going to fix a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge room with your drinks. He sits on the couch, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hiking your skirt high. He’s not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you’d ask your son’s friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another ‑- saucier ‑- level. Tell him you don’t think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you’re attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic ‑- and tries to hide his erection.
At that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband’s. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.
In between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he’s ever made love to a woman before. He’ll squeak out a no. Ask him if he’d like to make love to you, and tell him it’s okay ‑- you won’t tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You’re still the grown-up ‑- so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his pants. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex ‑- stopping just short of orgasm.
Undress yourself theatrically while maintaining eye contact. Let his eyes caress your body, but don’t let him touch you. Leave on your high heels and stockings. Pose provocatively and caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. Then undress him, kissing each bit of his flesh as it becomes exposed. When you’re both naked, lead him to the bed, then explain exactly how to make a woman scream in ecstasy. Each touch, kiss, fondle and thrust is his very first, remember. The fantasy ends when he completely loses control ‑- which should happen within about, ohhh, three minutes if you’ve played your part properly!
Fantasy #2: He’s your sex slave
Why it appeals to you: Having someone at your sexual beck and call has obvious benefits. You don’t have to worry about the “no, you first honey” niceties of sex; it’s all about your pleasure, and your pleasure alone.
Why he’ll love it too: Something happens to women during this scenario; they start suggesting things they wouldn’t dare during “normal” lovemaking. Who wouldn’t love a wild woman in his bed?
What you’ll need:
- A leather jacket worn over black underwear
- Stockings and a push-up bra
- Knee-high or thigh-high boots
- A blindfold, scarves or old stockings to tie him up
- A wooden spoon or hairbrush
The action plan:
Start by ordering him to do small tasks ‑- get you a drink, fluff up the pillows, give you a foot massage. Don’t ask, order. Make it clear that you are the boss and he is not to misbehave or he’ll be punished (think of a mild punishment beforehand, like spanking him with the wooden spoon). Try to keep an expressionless face. No Are you okay?, Did I hurt you?, Are you sure you’re enjoying this? This isn’t about him ‑- it’s all about you!
Once you’re both in character, order him to sit or lie down, face turned away from you. Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back, then push him forward into a submissive position. He’s now naked, bound and blindfolded ‑- completely at your mercy! Grab your wooden spoon or brush and administer a few short, sharp whacks on his bottom. Start caressing and stroking his bottom, the backs of his thighs, reach between his legs and caress his testicles. Wait until he’s moaning for more… then stop.
Tell him it’s up to you to decide what he gets and when, and he has to satisfy you first. Turn him around and order him to do whatever you’d like. No matter how pleasurable what he’s doing to you might be, push him away when he seems to be enjoying himself the most. Grab his hair, hold it tightly and tell him he’s been a bad boy. Administer a few more smacks on his bottom with the spoon. If you’re into talking dirty, keep a running commentary of what’s happening. If he’s blindfolded, paint a picture of what you’re seeing: Look at you, you’re begging for it. I bet you’d love to be untied. But you’re my slave. You have to do every single thing I say. Do you understand me? Are you going to behave? The fantasy ends with you announcing ‑- dramatically ‑- that he’s now free… to service you.
Fantasy #3: You’re abducted by a stranger
Why it appeals to you: The “safe rape” is a very common female fantasy ‑- but it’s such a far cry from the real thing it seems ridiculous to even call it rape. Passionate and forceful, but never violent or painful, the “rapes” in our head differ because we’re always in control, even though we’re being “forced” to submit.
Why he’ll love it too: Being the physical aggressor is taboo for men. Being given a “harmless” outlet to let loose some deeply primitive urges without being punished is appealing.
What you’ll need to act it out: A quiet bedroom and a mirror
The action plan: You’re naked while he’s dressed in street clothes (a dark suit would play up the mysterious stranger element). You’re in your bedroom, admiring your body with your hands and your eyes in a full-length mirror. He sneaks up silently behind you, covers your eyes with his hands and says, Shhh! I won’t hurt you. But you have to do exactly as I say. You freeze and pretend to be terrified. You’re not sure what to do, knowing that he’ll overpower you if you try to get away. He waits for you to calm down and for your breathing to become regular again. Meanwhile, you’re conscious of the sensation of your naked skin against the roughness of his clothes ‑- and you’re oddly excited by it.
He tells you in a low, suggestive voice, that you should draw your curtains before getting undressed at night. He’s been watching and fantasizing and masturbating while watching you for weeks ‑- and he just had to have you. He knows that your boyfriend isn’t due home for hours and that no one else is coming to rescue you either. You remain motionless. You’re torn between wanting desperately to be saved and being sexually fascinated by the idea of someone wanting you so badly that they’d risk everything. You don’t say a word. Still standing behind you, he keeps one hand over your eyes and uses the other to stroke your breasts, your stomach, your neck and your thighs. You’re not sure how to react. You can feel yourself starting to respond physically, even though you know you shouldn’t.
As he touches you, he starts telling you exactly what he plans to do to you ‑- in detail. It seems as if he knows exactly what turns you on and talks just the way you want him to, be it seductive and suggestive, or coarse and explicit. When he feels you begin to weaken, he removes his hands from your eyes and you look in the mirror to see him standing behind you, hands on your breasts, his mouth buried in the nape of your neck, kissing you. He’s even sexier than you’d dared hope. Your resistance wanes, but you refuse to let him know you’re turned on.
Just when you’re beginning to relax, he pulls your arms gently behind your back, holding them together at the wrist and using his other hand to continue exploring.
He maintains eye contact in the mirror and challenges you to tell him you’re not enjoying what he’s doing. At first, you shake your head and say you’re not. But he tells you that you have no choice; you’re in his power.
You resist everything he tries… at first. Then you let him continue. You don’t admit that you’re erotically charged, but your body is giving you away. You’re ready for him. Come on, you want it, he whispers while licking, touching and stimulating you until you can’t take it anymore. Finally you let him penetrate. You give in and leave all the initial innocence behind ‑- resulting in a climax so powerful the neighbors bang on the ceiling!
Is it OK for women to suggest doing 'kinky' things in bed?
Some women get very nervous suggesting saucy stuff because when they do, some men judge them. I suspect this may have happened to your friend, hence her horror at you being so ‘forward’. Despite so called sexual equality, there’s still a huge chasm between what men are supposed to do/like/get up to and what women are supposed to enjoy.
The Sex Doctor Interview – Part 1
The first part of three of an interview with Tracy Cox, the Sex Doctor.
22 Things You Should Never Do In Bed
Once, I got drunk at a wedding and took home a yuppie. He looked so cute in his white tux and charmed me into dancing to Earth, Wind & Fire. Needless to say, I couldn’t wait to take that stallion for a ride. But, as I unzipped his pants, he said, “Don’t get excited, you won’t be impressed.” A small penis never ruined my good time—until then. Things went from bad to worse. He was a deep-breathing whiner who just lay on his back because, he warned me, “Girls only get off when they’re on top.” Something tells me those other ladies weren’t given any other option—and they definitely didn’t orgasm. There are some things—like selling yourself short and telling someone how to get off—that you should never say or do during sex …
Quickies… Are the Best Kind of Sex
…Perfect Your Hand Job
The humble hand job comes into its own – literally – during sex in public places. Apart from kissing, using your hands is the lowest-risk sexual activity – and since it’s how lots of us masturbate, the genitals respond nicely to the right type of touch. “Right” usually means she should do it harder and he should go softer (it’s what each sex is most used to). Not much time? Go for a superfast orgasm for her by positioning her (sitting or standing) in front of you. Rest one palm on the top of her pubic bone and press down firmly, pushing forward, pulling back or moving in circles. Next, insert (well-lubricated) fingers: one inside her vagina, the other in her anus. It’s a three-way she won’t mind you suggesting – or repeating. Blow him away (in all senses) by trying this technique: Twist your hands in opposite directions as you move up and down (one clockwise, one counterclockwise) or make two fists around his penis, hold them centrally, then move one downward and the other upward. Use one-word questions to ask for feedback (harder? faster?) so he only has to answer yes or no. Keep the rhythm constant, building up to a fast speed, then slow it down dramatically before moving back up again. Repeat several times, letting him hover on the brink, before tipping him over with a decided flourish.
A Man's Guide to Women's Lingerie
As men and women all over the world share their warmth on these cold wintry nights, a celebration of love looms on the horizon, and with it, the promise of the coming spring. The rituals of Valentines Day so often consists of a box of chocolates and some roses, followed by dinner, and an expectation of some better than the usual sex. Ever wonder if it could get any better than this? It can.
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Adult Dating Tips – Try These Out
Online dating is a definite fun for adults. The approach of adult dating is quite graduated from the ones pursued by the school going kids. Adult online dating implies dating through computer and Internet. Many dating sites are available today that offer free and paid online dating service. Register on these sites and get going. Adult dating is a boon for all those seeking companionship but do not have time, circumstances, or guts to do so in the offline world. Using some good adult dating tips, you can shape the online interaction as desired. Despite your maturity, you may need some adult dating tips so that you follow safe online dating norms. Here are some useful adult dating tips that should help you in getting better and safer online dating results.
Dating Over 50: It Is Never Too Late
Some people, no matter how old they get, never seem to get the hang of dating. Countless bad dates and cheesy pick-up lines could make you feel like giving up and staying single forever. You could be dating just to have fun, or you could be looking for a serious companion. You must keep a positive attitude and learn that with age comes experience. And experience is the best teacher! Take your emotions and the emotions of the other person into account when evaluating a date.
Six Good Reasons To Take A Nudist Vacation
It’s that time of year when my loved one and myself set aside an evening to open a bottle of wine and discuss one of the most significant events in the Egger family calendar, to whit, the Great Annual Holiday.
As always, the first decision we have to make is whether we choose nude or not. As confirmed nudists, we naturally favour a naturist vacation, or at least a vacation during which we can get naked for part of the time. However it’s not an automatic choice and this year there is a particularly tempting selection of textile holidays on offer. There’s a Mediterranean cruise that looks appealing, and the Rocky Mountain Rail Adventure takes my eye. Maybe we should support one of the Indian Ocean countries devastated by the Boxing Day Tsunami, or stay at home and redecorate (ugh!) However, we’ll probably choose nude, and here’s six reasons why.
Reason #1
Getting naked, even for a short time, can help save your life!
I’m not being overly dramatic here. It really seems that divesting yourself of tight, restrictive clothing that impedes the natural flow of blood and lymphatic fluid may be a real life-saver.
According to researchers, wearing a bra can cause all manner of unpleasantness, including soreness and even breast cancer. The (admittedly preliminary) research suggests that ladies who wear bras for more than twelve hours each day except for bed, are 21 times more likely to get breast cancer than those who wear bras less than twelve hours per day. And listen to this- those who wear bras even in bed are125 times more likely to get breast cancer than those who don’t wear bras at all! In cultures where ladies don’t wear bras, the incidence of breast cancer is about the same as it is for men – virtually zero!
And it’s not only the ladies who are at risk. The same research suggests that testicular cancer in men may be caused by tight briefs.
So, divesting yourself of bra and briefs, even for the short period of your vacation, could keep you much healthier.
Reason #2
Less clothes = less luggage = less hassle.
Have you ever noticed how when you’re packing for a holiday you can never seem to have enough clothes? And how you’ll then spend the equivalent of the cost of the vacation on essential garments brought especially for the holiday? Yet, during your stay you find you’ve ended up with twice the clothes you need? It’s spooky isn’t it? Don’t ask me why it works that way – probably some unexplained Law of Nature – but it happens EVERY TIME.
Except on a nudist holiday.
It’s as if nudist holidays turn natural laws on their head. The scramble to cover every eventuality clothes-wise is replaced by a disdain for apparel bordering on the obsessive. My normal textile two page-packing list is reduced to just four lines, viz:
- Suitable clothing for travelling.
- Sufficient smart slinky dresses for evening wear.
- Shorts/skirt/tee-shirt for any non-nudist (referred to in nude-speak as “textile”) excursions.
- And, ummm… well that’s about it really.
The immediate effect of this textile trimming is that my luggage, which is normally equal in volume to a medium-sized car, consists of just one small suitcase. (OK, two, if you count the other one which contains life-saving items such as hairdryer, make-up, skin creams, lipsticks, jewellery etc – gosh, a girl has to look her best, even in the buff hasn’t she?) Not only does this make for easier carrying and a swifter get-away from the luggage carousel, it also saves on tips. The largesse I would otherwise have to distribute just to transport my baggage train to the hotel would feed a family of five for a month. A spin off from this is that less clothing also means less packing and unpacking, leaving more time for drinking wine and dozing by the pool, which is the whole idea of a holiday in the first place.
Well it’s mine, anyway
Reason #3
Skin doesn’t stain.
Our skin is wonderful. Not only is it the largest organ of our body, but it always fits perfectly (OK. Sometimes some of us may have a just a little more than is necessary, but you know what I mean.)
Happily, it’s also easier to keep clean than fabric. My husband has a particular fondness for crépes – you know, those pancake things with fillings you can buy from roadside kiosks around the Med? He’d eat ‘em all day if I let him. Unfortunately he also has a tendency to lose the syrup filling down his front, which has led to more ruined shirts than would fill a steamer trunk.
A nudist holiday neatly sidesteps this problem. Whilst maple syrup may not be particularly easy to remove from a naked chest – especially a hirsute male one – it ’s a whole lot easier than washing it out of a silk or cotton shirt. Nor does it leave a stain, except for a livid red mark across the torso after the treacle has been scrubbed from the chest hair, but that’s the price men pay for being so clumsy. (In the interests of equality, I have to concede that this is not just a male quirk. After a bottle or two I have been known to distribute red wine down my bosom with something approaching gay abandon, rendering any affected clothing null and void in the process. However I insist that this is not clumsiness on my part, but merely the result of my being tired and emotional. So there.)
Reason #4
It makes more sense to be naked on a beach than to wear a bathing costume.
Let’s face it. A bathing costume serves no useful purpose. It doesn’t keep us dry, or warm, and doesn’t even help us to swim: studies by the West German Olympic swim team showed that swimsuits actually hamper a swimmer. They’re not even healthy. Ticks and sea lice that bite or sting and which find nowhere to hide on a nude body are easily trapped in a bathing suit.
So why do we wear ‘em
To preserve one’s modesty? Hardly. These days mens’ costumes are brief enough but ladies bathers are positively miniscule, containing less fabric than
a small handkerchief. Bikini tops afford less coverage than two postage stamps on a string, and in any case are rarely worn on European beaches. Bikini bottoms just cover the genitals but often leave the bottom exposed.
Which also means they don’t protect you from the sun’s harmful UV rays.
Yet according to a survey carried out by the Ladies’ Home Journal Americans spend $900,000,000 each year on bathing costumes, although eighty-five percent of all swimsuits purchased never touch the water.
Doesn’t make a lot of sense does it?
Reason #5
Nudist resorts are nice places with nice people.
Every nudist knows that genuine nudists are very nice people. What makes nudist especially nice remains a mystery. Perhaps nudism attracts the pleasantest individuals in the first place, or maybe the practice of nudism somehow improves people. Who knows? And really, who cares? Let’s just enjoy the situation. You can leave an unlocked car at a nudist resort and nothing will be taken. Nudist resorts and beaches tend to be orderly, well behaved places. Even at a nudist holiday city such as Cap d’Agde, containing some 40000 people at the height of the season, there is none of the threatening atmosphere, violence and general loutishness that disfigures other holiday hot-spots. Any sort of crime is almost non-existent, and most large complexes, even Cap d’Agde, need no more than minimal security.
You don’t get that at Benidorm or Palm Springs!
Reason #6
Nudist entrepreneurs need our support.
Despite estimates that the world nude travel business is worth some four hundred million USD annually and growing fast, the nudist holiday industry is still a fragile plant that needs encouragement and support. The fine nudist resorts that cater to the nudist holidaymaker today are a far cry from the primitive camps that were available in the not too distant past, and by attracting the new generation of vacationers who demand a certain standard of comfort, are in a large part responsible for the growth of the nude leisure industry. However, quality costs money, and these resorts are businesses, not charities. Unless we continue to support them they’ll close, and we’ll return to the old clapped out, run down, make-do-and-mend compounds of yesteryear. As the old saying goes, you have to use ‘em or lose ‘em
So, it looks as if we’ll choose nude again this year. All we have to do is to decide where. Wait a minute. I’ve just had a wonderful idea. Perhaps we can support the Tsunami appeal and please ourselves at the same time by going nude in Thailand.
That’s it! Brilliant. Now, then, where are those brochures…?
What To Do When You Think He Might Be Bisexual
Your boyfriend tends to remark on what the men in the bar are wearing as often as he does the girls. When he’s had a little to drink he flirts a little with the men at the table. Although he says that he is hetero, you are beginning to wonder if maybe he would bat for both teams, if given the chance.
Bisexuality is fast becoming less though of as a third orientation. Some bisexuals contend that we are all bisexual to a degree. Others submit that it is a natural part of curiosity and most people have thoughts or feelings about the same sex as well as the opposite sex, but do not consider themselves as homosexual. Still others shout from the roof tops that it is the best of both worlds. So if he is attracted to both men and women, does that automatically make him a bisexual?
Not necessarily. The best definition I’ve heard of sexual orientation is based not on who you have slept with, but who you’d like to sleep with. Take it for what it’s worth. It’s also a myth that all bisexuals are just going through a phase in determining which sexuality they prefer to identify with. This is dangerous thinking because it implies that homosexuality is a choice, which the moral majority would have you believe. We know that it is not.
You need also remember that sexuality is like a spiral, not a line. It can change and shift over time. Just because a person is attracted to both sexes doe not mean that they can not have a magnanimous relationship with one person. They have chosen you as a person, not as a sexual being. Bisexuals are often not attracted equally to both sexes, either, although nothing is set in stone-some are.
So what are you going to do about it? Remember that he may not see it himself, or he may be denying it, or confused, or afraid you won’t understand. You need to figure out how you feel about the possibility before you confront him or jump to conclusions that could hurt your relationship. If you have a problem with it, maybe you should look at why. Are you insecure or afraid he will “turn gay” and leave you if it comes out in the open? Honesty in a relationship is the most important aspect of intimacy, and not sex.
If you are with a great guy and have great sex and you love each other, who cares who he is attracted to? He may never act on it, or you may discuss the possibility of him acting on his feelings if it’s out in the open. If it’s true he will probably be relieved.
But what if you’re wrong? If you think he may be bisexual but aren’t sure, you had better make reasonably sure before you ask him about it. If the two of you have been together for awhile, this will probably be easier, but if the relationship is new you might want to check with old girlfriends or mutual friends before you shoot off your mouth. If you are just being easily jealous and insecure because of your own issues, get a grip.
