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Some people, no matter how old they get, never seem to get the hang of dating. Countless bad dates and cheesy pick-up lines could make you feel like giving up and staying single forever. You could be dating just to have fun, or you could be looking for a serious companion. You must keep a positive attitude and learn that with age comes experience. And experience is the best teacher! Take your emotions and the emotions of the other person into account when evaluating a date.

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It’s that time of year when my loved one and myself set aside an evening to open a bottle of wine and discuss one of the most significant events in the Egger family calendar, to whit, the Great Annual Holiday.

As always, the first decision we have to make is whether we choose nude or not. As confirmed nudists, we naturally favour a naturist vacation, or at least a vacation during which we can get naked for part of the time. However it’s not an automatic choice and this year there is a particularly tempting selection of textile holidays on offer. There’s a Mediterranean cruise that looks appealing, and the Rocky Mountain Rail Adventure takes my eye. Maybe we should support one of the Indian Ocean countries devastated by the Boxing Day Tsunami, or stay at home and redecorate (ugh!) However, we’ll probably choose nude, and here’s six reasons why.

Reason #1

Getting naked, even for a short time, can help save your life!

I’m not being overly dramatic here. It really seems that divesting yourself of tight, restrictive clothing that impedes the natural flow of blood and lymphatic fluid may be a real life-saver.

According to researchers, wearing a bra can cause all manner of unpleasantness, including soreness and even breast cancer. The (admittedly preliminary) research suggests that ladies who wear bras for more than twelve hours each day except for bed, are 21 times more likely to get breast cancer than those who wear bras less than twelve hours per day. And listen to this- those who wear bras even in bed are125 times more likely to get breast cancer than those who don’t wear bras at all! In cultures where ladies don’t wear bras, the incidence of breast cancer is about the same as it is for men – virtually zero!

And it’s not only the ladies who are at risk. The same research suggests that testicular cancer in men may be caused by tight briefs.

So, divesting yourself of bra and briefs, even for the short period of your vacation, could keep you much healthier.

Reason #2

Less clothes = less luggage = less hassle.

Have you ever noticed how when you’re packing for a holiday you can never seem to have enough clothes? And how you’ll then spend the equivalent of the cost of the vacation on essential garments brought especially for the holiday? Yet, during your stay you find you’ve ended up with twice the clothes you need? It’s spooky isn’t it? Don’t ask me why it works that way – probably some unexplained Law of Nature – but it happens EVERY TIME.

Except on a nudist holiday.

It’s as if nudist holidays turn natural laws on their head. The scramble to cover every eventuality clothes-wise is replaced by a disdain for apparel bordering on the obsessive. My normal textile two page-packing list is reduced to just four lines, viz:

• Suitable clothing for travelling.
• Sufficient smart slinky dresses for evening wear.
• Shorts/skirt/tee-shirt for any non-nudist (referred to in nude-speak as “textile”) excursions.
• And, ummm… well that’s about it really.

The immediate effect of this textile trimming is that my luggage, which is normally equal in volume to a medium-sized car, consists of just one small suitcase. (OK, two, if you count the other one which contains life-saving items such as hairdryer, make-up, skin creams, lipsticks, jewellery etc – gosh, a girl has to look her best, even in the buff hasn’t she?) Not only does this make for easier carrying and a swifter get-away from the luggage carousel, it also saves on tips. The largesse I would otherwise have to distribute just to transport my baggage train to the hotel would feed a family of five for a month. A spin off from this is that less clothing also means less packing and unpacking, leaving more time for drinking wine and dozing by the pool, which is the whole idea of a holiday in the first place.

Well it’s mine, anyway

Reason #3

Skin doesn’t stain.

Our skin is wonderful. Not only is it the largest organ of our body, but it always fits perfectly (OK. Sometimes some of us may have a just a little more than is necessary, but you know what I mean.)

Happily, it’s also easier to keep clean than fabric. My husband has a particular fondness for crépes – you know, those pancake things with fillings you can buy from roadside kiosks around the Med? He’d eat ‘em all day if I let him. Unfortunately he also has a tendency to lose the syrup filling down his front, which has led to more ruined shirts than would fill a steamer trunk.

A nudist holiday neatly sidesteps this problem. Whilst maple syrup may not be particularly easy to remove from a naked chest – especially a hirsute male one – it ’s a whole lot easier than washing it out of a silk or cotton shirt. Nor does it leave a stain, except for a livid red mark across the torso after the treacle has been scrubbed from the chest hair, but that’s the price men pay for being so clumsy. (In the interests of equality, I have to concede that this is not just a male quirk. After a bottle or two I have been known to distribute red wine down my bosom with something approaching gay abandon, rendering any affected clothing null and void in the process. However I insist that this is not clumsiness on my part, but merely the result of my being tired and emotional. So there.)

Reason #4

It makes more sense to be naked on a beach than to wear a bathing costume.

Let’s face it. A bathing costume serves no useful purpose. It doesn’t keep us dry, or warm, and doesn’t even help us to swim: studies by the West German Olympic swim team showed that swimsuits actually hamper a swimmer. They’re not even healthy. Ticks and sea lice that bite or sting and which find nowhere to hide on a nude body are easily trapped in a bathing suit.

So why do we wear ‘em

To preserve one’s modesty? Hardly. These days mens’ costumes are brief enough but ladies bathers are positively miniscule, containing less fabric than
a small handkerchief. Bikini tops afford less coverage than two postage stamps on a string, and in any case are rarely worn on European beaches. Bikini bottoms just cover the genitals but often leave the bottom exposed.

Which also means they don’t protect you from the sun’s harmful UV rays.

Yet according to a survey carried out by the Ladies’ Home Journal Americans spend $900,000,000 each year on bathing costumes, although eighty-five percent of all swimsuits purchased never touch the water.

Doesn’t make a lot of sense does it?

Reason #5

Nudist resorts are nice places with nice people.

Every nudist knows that genuine nudists are very nice people. What makes nudist especially nice remains a mystery. Perhaps nudism attracts the pleasantest individuals in the first place, or maybe the practice of nudism somehow improves people. Who knows? And really, who cares? Let’s just enjoy the situation. You can leave an unlocked car at a nudist resort and nothing will be taken. Nudist resorts and beaches tend to be orderly, well behaved places. Even at a nudist holiday city such as Cap d’Agde, containing some 40000 people at the height of the season, there is none of the threatening atmosphere, violence and general loutishness that disfigures other holiday hot-spots. Any sort of crime is almost non-existent, and most large complexes, even Cap d’Agde, need no more than minimal security.

You don’t get that at Benidorm or Palm Springs!

Reason #6

Nudist entrepreneurs need our support.

Despite estimates that the world nude travel business is worth some four hundred million USD annually and growing fast, the nudist holiday industry is still a fragile plant that needs encouragement and support. The fine nudist resorts that cater to the nudist holidaymaker today are a far cry from the primitive camps that were available in the not too distant past, and by attracting the new generation of vacationers who demand a certain standard of comfort, are in a large part responsible for the growth of the nude leisure industry. However, quality costs money, and these resorts are businesses, not charities. Unless we continue to support them they’ll close, and we’ll return to the old clapped out, run down, make-do-and-mend compounds of yesteryear. As the old saying goes, you have to use ‘em or lose ‘em

So, it looks as if we’ll choose nude again this year. All we have to do is to decide where. Wait a minute. I’ve just had a wonderful idea. Perhaps we can support the Tsunami appeal and please ourselves at the same time by going nude in Thailand.

That’s it! Brilliant. Now, then, where are those brochures…?

Take a poll in any bar or on any college campus-anywhere there are men for that matter, and the result will always be the same. The ultimate fantasy is the menage de trois, the threesome. Two girls and one guy.

But how do you get her to go for it? Well, let’s take a quick history lesson, the results of which may surprise you.

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The best part of sex, in my far-from-humble opinion, is the pleasure you can cause in your partner(s). While being stimulated by your partner is certainly far better (for most people, if their partner’s any good at it) than masturbation, it is still pretty much the same, only better. Going down on a lover, on the other hand, allows you to get a kind of pleasure that you cannot give yourself, even in part; the vicarious or empathic response you get from their reactions. The techniques here, therefore, are centred around cunnilingus, including (since there’s no separate name) using your fingers. Along a similar line I’ve now written Advanced Fellatio Techniques and Secrets. This was learned as a subject, not performer, but with the same quality of skill involved. Because of the number of questions I received on the subject, I also have Advanced Anal Sex Techniques, for those who want to know about that.

Basic Guidelines:

"Less" is always the best way to start out if you don’t know exactly what a specific person likes. It’s much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is this — If you start out "too" gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her a little. But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always turns her off to the whole thing. The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough — no matter what you have encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely possible to have had many lovers, and think They are all pretty much the same or You’ve learned all of the variations, and can tell who’s what. But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance… you happened to get several similar lovers. Eventually you will run into someone, or many people, who are completely different than those you’ve known before.

Don’t start by going down on her. Work your way up to it. Exceptions may be if you’re in a hurry before your Press Secretary shows up, or other situations where you’re expected to act more directly. It’s worth observing that "work your way up to it" remains true no matter how many times you’ve been with that lover. With a long-term lover it may seem like you can get right to the direct stuff, but working your way up still has the same effect of increasing her excitement, with most women. Along the same line of reasoning, don’t start licking her clitoris immediately, when you do get there. Start with the area around it, which can be pretty sensitive with some women, even if it doesn’t seem to cause the same dramatic response. Even more important is to not immediately start inserting fingers in her vagina. With most women, that really needs to be built up, first. It usually doesn’t hurt to build up a little, even if she’s already excited. Remember this — Most often, the tongue works best with the clitoris, the fingers with the vagina/g-spot. Someone else’s fingers on her clitoris tends to be a little rough, no matter how careful they are… and almost all of the excitement she gets from attempting to lick into her vagina is psychological; she can’t really feel much that way. Hand Care It’s best to be sure your fingernail edges are very smooth, and preferably cut all the way down to where they connect to your skin. No matter how careful you are, they are likely to cause her to get a little sore inside, or even really hurt, feeling like a knife cutting her. This can even be the cause of soreness that she doesn’t realize is being caused by your nails. Being a guitarist, I have the nails on my left hand trimmed back as far as I can cut them, anyway. Guitar also gives one’s fret-hand amazing endurance and finesse, for g-spot stimulation and other tricks

Dental Dams:

These are, in most cases, just plain silly. Unlike almost any other form of sexual activity, the odds of you transmitting or catching AIDS this way are almost zero. There are almost no cases of any female homosexuals, for instance, even claiming to have caught AIDS this way. In case you’re wondering what the hell I’m talking about, a "dental dam" is simply a condom cut in half lengthwise and used to keep fluids from passing between mouth and vulva. And it’s being advocated primarily by people who are simply jealous that they’re missing out on a great chance to be a "victim" in the issue of sexually transmitted diseases. 

Interesting note — A little noise on your part usually doesn’t hurt, and sometimes it helps. Some women are very hung up on cunnilingus, determined to believe that, no matter how much you say otherwise (and she claims to believe you), it may be at least a little unpleasant for you. If you’re excited by her responses, or by the act itself, don’t try to stay quiet about it. The same kind of sounds that will reassure and excite a lover when they’re pleasuring you will often work when you’re pleasuring them, too. This could be considered a secret weapon in sex in general, because most guys are rather quiet, and yet women almost always find responsiveness very exciting. The contrast between someone who’s responsive and most of the other guys makes it even more effective than it would already have been.

More Advanced Techniques:

The G-Spot This does exist. And in over half of the women out there, it works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong, prolonged orgasm. The original name is the Grafenberg spot, after a doctor, Earnest Grafenberg, who documented the area (which may have been known by people here and there throughout history) in the fifties. This "spot" is a small "mound" of tissue inside the vagina, between a penny and quarter in size, which responds to being pressed upon. It’s almost certainly not the skenes glands, (which are located around the urethra, which is behind the G-spot area), as has been suggested by a few people. In fact, the G-Spot is the tissue in that raised area of the vagina, which has a higher concentration of sexual nerves, and produces hormones similar to those made by the male’s prostate gland.

A sort of map to the area — Imagine your lover lying on her back, legs spread. Your position is between her legs. You would slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. With your finger straight back, middle finger is best, you would curve it toward yourself, gently, as if you were gesturing to someone to "come here". In doing so, the area you press on should be pretty near her "G-Spot" area. If you know enough to follow the urethra (the tube that leads from the bladder to where the pee comes out), along the inside of her vagina, you may feel a slight swelling (if she’s excited) at the point where the g-spot is. She must be excited, especially if either you or she is new to the g-spot, for the g-spot to have any real effect at all. It’s not the ideal area for getting your lover aroused. But when she is excited, this area (more often than not) is the best way to bring her to orgasm. You work your way back to it gradually, teasing her (typically, this works best) with your fingers, slowly and gently. It’s easier to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be comfortable for her, depending on how "tight" she is at that moment. When you have your fingers around the right area, try gently pressing, not too quickly. The movement should be fairly rhythmic. It’s typically best if you’re licking her clitoris (or near it, depending on the woman) at the same time… don’t make a big deal out of the "quest", this will often make her feel self-conscious, or distracted. The licking should seem to be the primary activity. When you find the right area, she should respond by getting more excited. 

Most of the vagina’s inside surface isn’t really that sexually sensitive, believe it or not… most of the excitement of randomly inserting fingers is more psychological than from the actual stimulation. While more complicated techniques work with some women, some of the time, the best basic technique, upon finding the g-spot, is to continue to slowly, rhythmically press on it, while licking her clitoris (for a few women, the labia (lips) are sensitive to licking, too). This should cause her to build up to an orgasm. A G-Spot orgasm is different (always, when it works at all) than any other kind women have. It is possible, with some women, to have different qualities and kinds of orgasms from vaginal, clitoral, anal, and even breast stimulation… but with other women, those kinds of orgasms are all pretty much the same. But the G-Spot orgasm not only feels different; it also causes her body to react in a different way. First, it often causes a "push out" orgasm. The area around, or "above" (farther inside, that is) your fingers seems to swell up or to contract toward the opening of her vagina. If you find the right combination of pushing back when this happens, and slacking off to let it push out, you can cause (in perhaps half of the women) her orgasm to continue happening, long after normal ones would have subsided. In some women you can even keep her at a "plateau" (raised level) of sexual excitement, like a prolonged orgasm (or a little less than one) afterward, building up to an even bigger climax. I’ve managed to keep this pattern of build-up, orgasm, plateau, orgasm, build-up, orgasm for over four hours, with one lover. We stopped when, though she wanted to go on, she was so exhausted that she really had to stop.

That brings me to another important point; G-Spot orgasms sometimes (less than half of the women, I’d guess, and in some of those women only occasionally) causes a huge amount (relatively speaking) of lubrication (juices, wetness)… far more than even the most excited woman gets from "conventional" stimulation. It’s a good thing, too, because otherwise g-spot orgasms can only be prolonged for as long as she does not get raw/sore from it… which is yet another reason to be gentle. When that extra wetness combines with the push-out orgasm, you get actual ejaculation… like a guy, but much better tasting. The built up juices can shoot out in such volume that you, or she, may be afraid that she lost control of her bladder. That is (almost always) not what happened. The fear that she peed can be enhanced by the fact that the urethra is behind the g-spot, so that in rare cases the woman can sometimes get the feeling that she needs to pee, even though she does not. In reality, in both men and women, enough sexual excitement prevents peeing, unless you try really hard. This is a built-in reflex, because urine is something of a spermicidal. The "pee hard-on" that men get in the morning is partially his body taking advantage of this reflex, to keep him from accidentally wetting the bed with the urine that built up while he was sleeping.

Licking the Alphabet:

Believe it or not, Sam Kinnison’s suggestion of licking the alphabet, one letter at a time, on and around her clitoris/vulva actually works. I had come up with a similar technique myself, but his version is pretty close to the perfect formula — The real goal is to be able to keep regular, rhythmic motions going, but to change them in some gradual pattern that isn’t so different it throws her off, but isn’t so redundant that she grows insensitive to it. The alphabet is probably the longest chain of shapes that you can be sure to repeat smoothly and rhythmically, without loosing track of where you are. Unless you are a victim of public education, I suppose, in which case you may have to stick to the letters of your name, or the numbers one through nine (being too confused by where to put the zero). I would not suggest combining this with the g-spot stimulation, at least not with the intention of really giving her g-spot orgasms. The two techniques conflict a bit, as the focus of arousal is so different.

Cough Drops – Nothing to Sneeze At:

After you’ve thought about it for a while, this will seem obvious. Just remember that it probably wasn’t, until a minute ago… The way a cough drop, either menthol or mint, works is to stimulate the mucus membranes in your mouth in the special way that feels "cool and tingly". Well, one of the few other places (easily accessible) on the human body that has mucus membranes is the vaginal area. Many people find that, correctly applied, a cough drop feels just spectacular down there. Most people at least find it a very… ah… refreshing change of pace. A few important tips: Use sugar-free cough drops. Nice is a great brand, especially the menthol or mint versions. If possible, find one (whatever brand) with both menthol and mint. It’s actually possible that sugar cough drops are just fine, or even better… the debate is over whether the sugar might feed an already existing yeast infection. The things I’ve heard from semi-expert (medically) people are that it may feed one (and thus aggravate it), that it actually will protect from yeast infection (I forget the reasoning, it may have been a Ph thing), or that it’s not the kind of yeast that eats sugar anyway. One thing’s unanimous: sugar cough drops won’t make any difference unless you’re already infected, they don’t carry that kind of yeast. In fact, a human’s fingers or tongue would be more likely to (and even that is pretty unlikely, if they’re of even typical cleanliness). Let the drop become even more rounded and smoothed by sucking on it for a while, if you’re actually going to apply it inside (which is the most effective way).

Speaking of which, the best thing to do is actually insert it with your fingers. This only works if you’re going to be using your fingers during the cunnilingus, though an alternative is to leave it there for a while and then engage in coitus, which can be pretty nifty for both parties. If not insertion, the best way is to simply suck on it and then, with cough-droppy saliva, lick her as you would have done anyway, perhaps using the Alphabet method. This isn’t quite as amazing, but is still pretty good. Altoids are supposed to be pretty good, but they’re very powerful. I haven’t yet verified whether they work, though Don & Mike (Radio Gods) unintentionally made a big deal of it recently. They admitted they were working from a position of ignorance, much like their reviews of movies they have never seen. Don’t forget to try breathing on, or blowing lightly on, her vagina/clitoris. The effect is more subtle until you try this… it’s the exposure to air that makes it especially tingly. Just for Noel When Christmas time rolls around, some stores sell a kind of candy cane that’s over an inch thick and six or eight inches long at the straight part (it may not even have the hooked part at all). Take one end of that, and suck/lick it until it is more rounded and smooth, and you have one of the most entertaining objects you might ever insert in your lover’s vagina. It has that special minty feeling, like a cough drop but milder, and is the approximate size/shape of a penis.

Butt-Free Anal Stimulation:

I like making up titles. The vagina actually shares a wall, on one side, with the rectum. Not only does this mean that sexual stimulation is possible from anal entry (which is a whole separate page), it also means that a similar sensation can be achieved without ever touching her butt (not that there’s anything wrong with that… heh) by stimulating the side of her vagina where it shares nerves with her rectum. This is more or less the exact opposite, one hundred eighty degrees around, from the g-spot. In other words, if you were to reach in and arch your finger to touch her g-spot, then rotate your hand to face the exact other direction and make a similar (but flatter) motion, you’ve got the right area. Common sense should tell you where I’m talking about, anyway, since it’s the area where it would touch her rectum, inside.

It rarely works well to stimulate this early on… usually you need to not only build up to it, but even get her pretty excited and sensitive first. This is not only to make the area more receptive, but also, in some cases, so that she will be beyond any danger of distraction over the tabooness of how it feels somewhat like you’re stimulating her anally. Press more with the length of your finger, not the tip. This works best, in many cases, as a change of pace, not the main attraction.

Which leads us to… Around the World — or the Sea, Anyway Once you have your lover "used to" the whole g-spot stimulation thing (she will actually get "better at" cumming from g-spot stimulation, the more it’s done to her), you can try, occasionally and for variety, stimulating her g-spot until she starts to really respond, then switching back and forth between pushing (as gently as normally necessary for that particular lover) her g-spot and pressing the length of your finger on the opposite side, as per the last section. Sometimes you can even get to the point of doing one press on one side, one on the other, back and forth, which can feel amazing and a bit "what on earth are you doing? No, I didn’t say to stop" to her. Most likely, though, it’ll work better if you switch every several seconds, not every time you press.

Around the World — Part II I should not fail to mention the cervix. You may not have even noticed it, by touch, but it’s there and once you find it you’ll wonder how you missed it (unless your lover has had hysterectomy, in which case it’s missing, no big deal). This is yet another area where you definitely want to build up to stimulating, as it can actually be painful to even touch if she’s not excited enough… but, despite assumptions to the contrary, it can be very useful for stimulation, done correctly. As I said, issue #1 is that she must be very aroused. Well, bearing in mind that everyone’s different, of course. The Cervix is also about 180 degrees around from the g-spot, but it’s in much deeper (typically). It leads back to the rest of her reproductive organs, like the womb. If she’s pregnant, don’t mess with this at all.

Watch out, too, for IUDs and diaphragms and the like. Hopefully you are on good enough terms with her to already know if she’s using one of these contraceptive devices, which fit over the cervix. The cervix is not an abstract "area", it actually juts up, like a little flesh mesa or something. It has an opening at its very "peak", but this is normally closed pretty tightly. The best way to start is to gently caress around the sides and base of the cervix. Remember, she should already be very "hot" before you even start this part. Eventually, build up to circling it with one or two fingers, around and around, gently staying in contact with it so she can feel the motion through the cervix itself. How hard you can press depends a lot on the specific woman. This is also something that probably works better as a change of pace, not the "main course" of the cunnilingus session… unless she really gets into it. That circling motion may get another round of "what on earth are you doing… hey! Don’t STOP doing it!". You may even, and in my experience this rarely works, but works well when it does, be able to press directly on the tip, with your finger or fingers, pressing it the way a penis might if one happened be entering her at the right angle to hit her cervix.

Actual Anal Stimulation:

This works very well with cunnilingus, if the woman is comfortable with it. In fact, it has its own section on the Advanced Anal Sex Techniques page… I won’t go into any real detail here but to point you to that page.

Comments/Appendices:

Taste anyone who likes, say, coffee or beer should have no room to complain about the way most women taste. No, I don’t mean it tastes like coffee or beer, genius… I mean that beer and coffee are, at best, acquired tastes… they are not naturally pleasant to a human being, no matter how much your addiction to one or both has convinced you otherwise. Most people, whether they remember it or not, had to learn to like the taste of beer/coffee, and had the desire to be Like the Adults to help them along. Well, I’d list taking pleasure in cunnilingus above drinking addictive beverages on the list of things that prove maturity.

Aside from that, there’s the fact that many people who give it an honest try genuinely enjoy the taste/smell, myself included. Had I not liked it, for some reason, I would have simply taught myself to like it, because of the great pleasure it can bring. Aside from whether you find the taste/smell sexually exciting to begin with (and, because of pheromones, males (at least) should), surely it will become ever more stimulating for you as you come to associate it with the pleasure you can give.

Rest. If you do have a lover who can experience repeated, extended orgasms from g-spot stimulation, and you (for some reason) need to take a break, the absolute best way to do this is to give her a clitoral orgasm. This can be as simple as pushing even more gently and slowly on her g-spot, while giving her clitoris more attention (it can often take more direct and firm stimulation by that level of arousal), so that her next orgasm is really caused by the licking, not the pressing of your finger(s). This works because, with many women anyway, clitoral orgasms leave her feeling very sensitive, and momentarily satisfied (or at least wanting to take a breather). There is, on the other hand, a very interesting trick for staying "in the game" when your tongue is getting tired. Switch from moving your tongue directly, to using your whole jaw to move your tongue, by slightly opening and closing it. If you tire of this, move your entire head, so that it’s doing the actual work that makes your tongue move. When even your neck tires, it’s on to the final backup-plan, but the one that works the longest; gently rock your entire body back and forth, at the same speed that you were doing each of the other, so that it’s your body that’s actually doing the work to move your tongue. For someone who hasn’t built up the mighty endurance that’s useful with a lover who can have hours of orgasms, this is a great trick. Of course it mainly works when you’re going simpler, rhythmic motions… save the fancy tongue stuff for when your tongue’s doing all of the work (you should be able to switch back to tongue-only motion regularly, as it gets rested).

When making any kind of relationship-oriented proposition, one should consider how their partner views the status and overall importance of physical intimacy in a relationship, as this will determine both the manner of approach as well as the intervals at which they should suggest new and more risky ideas. For some couples, this will mean jumping straight into a full fledged experiment while, for others, small steps in the right direction are the way to go.

Most importantly, confidence in the strength of the relationship must be known between the two. Nothing will encourage your partner more than ensuring them that no matter how far you deviate from the normal activities, the relationship itself is more important than those activities. Physical intimacy is a very important part of any relationship for most people, so it will not be as difficult as some would think to get the ball rolling.

The first step to introducing new ideas is to present them in such a manner that suggests that you are not committed to that idea. Committing yourself to anything other than the relationship can compromise your partners faith in your commitment to the lasting of the relationship itself. It is important then to offer them up as ideas verses wants or needs, and to let your partner know that you have simply been thinking about it lately or tossing the idea around. It may be helpful to mention that you just read about it or a friend mentioned that they and their partner tried it.

Remember though, information has a way of spreading like disease so only mention a friend if it is actually true and don’t use a friend as an example unless you are sure your partner likes that friend of yours. They may very well be willing to try it simply based on the fact that your friend has done it and they don’t want to you feel left out. It is also crucial to present the idea as something fairly recent, as bringing up an idea you have been considering for awhile can have negative effects. First, it makes them question the trust, since you did not mention it sooner. Second, you will be on different pages in their mind, as the idea will be new to them but not to you.

The second step is to present the idea in different ways, asking your partners opinion and thoughts on the matter. Simply stating a good case is not always enough to convince them that it is a good idea. Even if they like what you are presenting, they may still feel left out of the planning process and therefore are likely to feel left out of the act itself. It is important to present the idea not just as your own but as something that your partner has equal share in planning. The more you let them do, the better. Remember, you will still have an opinion on the matter, but if your partner spends the better half of this conversation talking, you will have them convinced that it was their idea.

The third step is putting the idea into action. Any new idea may be weird for either or both of you so keeping a real open mind is important for yourself and encouraging your partner to try this and that is a good thing. Ensure them that they will feel good. Tell them that you just want to please them and let them know that they can be open with what they do and don’t like about it. And remember, confidence is contagious. If you are certain that this is a good thing, it will help them to be certain as well.

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