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Lube, Toys and Lingerie!
Should these all be included in a normal sexual relationship? I think so, as it is all about getting the sexual satisfaction (orgasms) you deserve, in the way you want them and displaying the fact that you are ready for sex!
Lube now comes in many flavours’ and it’s for both men and women! We all know that women enjoy there sex much more when they are moist and it avoid any soreness or irritation. But lot of women don’t realise the fact is that men enjoy their sex much more when there is something to lubricate the motion. Lube can come from a tube or the more natural saliva and both are appreciated for that quick hand job. And if your sex life is on the more adventurous side and you enjoy any form of anal play, then lube is a forgone prerequisite.
Toys are not just for women, men like them to, both using them on there partner and having them used on themselves. It’s a very intimate act, but once a women has shown her partner how to use her toys and they are introduced in to your mutual masturbation practices, they can lead to a heighten sexual experience for both partners. Remember toys are not limited to dildos and vibrators, which are mainly female toys; cock rings, etc are available to assist in the sexual experience for both men and women.
Lingerie, again this is not just the domain of women now days. Whether it is ‘role play’ costumes or exotic underwear that makes you feel sexy, its function in the sexual encounter is both tactile and visual. The tactile sensations make you feel sexy; the visual aspect demonstrates that you are sexy and ready for it, without having to ask. Unlike a lot of men, most women are self conscious of their bodies and wearing exotic underwear as an open display of ‘availability’ to their partner can be a daunting task. Well ladies, this may not be headline news, but you partner will appreciate every effort you make in this department, not only does it turn him on, but it makes a no nonsense statement that you are ready for sex which can’t be misinterpreted.
So there’s a bit of back ground on lube, toys and lingerie, why not introduce it to your sex life?
22 Things You Should Never Do In Bed
Once, I got drunk at a wedding and took home a yuppie. He looked so cute in his white tux and charmed me into dancing to Earth, Wind & Fire. Needless to say, I couldn’t wait to take that stallion for a ride. But, as I unzipped his pants, he said, “Don’t get excited, you won’t be impressed.” A small penis never ruined my good time—until then. Things went from bad to worse. He was a deep-breathing whiner who just lay on his back because, he warned me, “Girls only get off when they’re on top.” Something tells me those other ladies weren’t given any other option—and they definitely didn’t orgasm. There are some things—like selling yourself short and telling someone how to get off—that you should never say or do during sex …
Quickies… Are the Best Kind of Sex
…Perfect Your Hand Job
The humble hand job comes into its own – literally – during sex in public places. Apart from kissing, using your hands is the lowest-risk sexual activity – and since it’s how lots of us masturbate, the genitals respond nicely to the right type of touch. “Right” usually means she should do it harder and he should go softer (it’s what each sex is most used to). Not much time? Go for a superfast orgasm for her by positioning her (sitting or standing) in front of you. Rest one palm on the top of her pubic bone and press down firmly, pushing forward, pulling back or moving in circles. Next, insert (well-lubricated) fingers: one inside her vagina, the other in her anus. It’s a three-way she won’t mind you suggesting – or repeating. Blow him away (in all senses) by trying this technique: Twist your hands in opposite directions as you move up and down (one clockwise, one counterclockwise) or make two fists around his penis, hold them centrally, then move one downward and the other upward. Use one-word questions to ask for feedback (harder? faster?) so he only has to answer yes or no. Keep the rhythm constant, building up to a fast speed, then slow it down dramatically before moving back up again. Repeat several times, letting him hover on the brink, before tipping him over with a decided flourish.
Adult Sex Games To Play With Women
I hate to say this… Sometimes sex with a woman can get boring!
I know, you probably think I’m completely nuts for saying this. But it’s true. If you’ve been having sex with one woman for awhile, then you’ve probably tried every conceivable position and technique. Even if you’re with the most beautiful girl in the world, there will be a time when things have grown stagnant.
Adult Dating Tips – Try These Out
Online dating is a definite fun for adults. The approach of adult dating is quite graduated from the ones pursued by the school going kids. Adult online dating implies dating through computer and Internet. Many dating sites are available today that offer free and paid online dating service. Register on these sites and get going. Adult dating is a boon for all those seeking companionship but do not have time, circumstances, or guts to do so in the offline world. Using some good adult dating tips, you can shape the online interaction as desired. Despite your maturity, you may need some adult dating tips so that you follow safe online dating norms. Here are some useful adult dating tips that should help you in getting better and safer online dating results.
Dating Over 50: It Is Never Too Late
Some people, no matter how old they get, never seem to get the hang of dating. Countless bad dates and cheesy pick-up lines could make you feel like giving up and staying single forever. You could be dating just to have fun, or you could be looking for a serious companion. You must keep a positive attitude and learn that with age comes experience. And experience is the best teacher! Take your emotions and the emotions of the other person into account when evaluating a date.
Six Good Reasons To Take A Nudist Vacation
It’s that time of year when my loved one and myself set aside an evening to open a bottle of wine and discuss one of the most significant events in the Egger family calendar, to whit, the Great Annual Holiday.
As always, the first decision we have to make is whether we choose nude or not. As confirmed nudists, we naturally favour a naturist vacation, or at least a vacation during which we can get naked for part of the time. However it’s not an automatic choice and this year there is a particularly tempting selection of textile holidays on offer. There’s a Mediterranean cruise that looks appealing, and the Rocky Mountain Rail Adventure takes my eye. Maybe we should support one of the Indian Ocean countries devastated by the Boxing Day Tsunami, or stay at home and redecorate (ugh!) However, we’ll probably choose nude, and here’s six reasons why.
Reason #1
Getting naked, even for a short time, can help save your life!
I’m not being overly dramatic here. It really seems that divesting yourself of tight, restrictive clothing that impedes the natural flow of blood and lymphatic fluid may be a real life-saver.
According to researchers, wearing a bra can cause all manner of unpleasantness, including soreness and even breast cancer. The (admittedly preliminary) research suggests that ladies who wear bras for more than twelve hours each day except for bed, are 21 times more likely to get breast cancer than those who wear bras less than twelve hours per day. And listen to this- those who wear bras even in bed are125 times more likely to get breast cancer than those who don’t wear bras at all! In cultures where ladies don’t wear bras, the incidence of breast cancer is about the same as it is for men – virtually zero!
And it’s not only the ladies who are at risk. The same research suggests that testicular cancer in men may be caused by tight briefs.
So, divesting yourself of bra and briefs, even for the short period of your vacation, could keep you much healthier.
Reason #2
Less clothes = less luggage = less hassle.
Have you ever noticed how when you’re packing for a holiday you can never seem to have enough clothes? And how you’ll then spend the equivalent of the cost of the vacation on essential garments brought especially for the holiday? Yet, during your stay you find you’ve ended up with twice the clothes you need? It’s spooky isn’t it? Don’t ask me why it works that way – probably some unexplained Law of Nature – but it happens EVERY TIME.
Except on a nudist holiday.
It’s as if nudist holidays turn natural laws on their head. The scramble to cover every eventuality clothes-wise is replaced by a disdain for apparel bordering on the obsessive. My normal textile two page-packing list is reduced to just four lines, viz:
- Suitable clothing for travelling.
- Sufficient smart slinky dresses for evening wear.
- Shorts/skirt/tee-shirt for any non-nudist (referred to in nude-speak as “textile”) excursions.
- And, ummm… well that’s about it really.
The immediate effect of this textile trimming is that my luggage, which is normally equal in volume to a medium-sized car, consists of just one small suitcase. (OK, two, if you count the other one which contains life-saving items such as hairdryer, make-up, skin creams, lipsticks, jewellery etc – gosh, a girl has to look her best, even in the buff hasn’t she?) Not only does this make for easier carrying and a swifter get-away from the luggage carousel, it also saves on tips. The largesse I would otherwise have to distribute just to transport my baggage train to the hotel would feed a family of five for a month. A spin off from this is that less clothing also means less packing and unpacking, leaving more time for drinking wine and dozing by the pool, which is the whole idea of a holiday in the first place.
Well it’s mine, anyway
Reason #3
Skin doesn’t stain.
Our skin is wonderful. Not only is it the largest organ of our body, but it always fits perfectly (OK. Sometimes some of us may have a just a little more than is necessary, but you know what I mean.)
Happily, it’s also easier to keep clean than fabric. My husband has a particular fondness for crépes – you know, those pancake things with fillings you can buy from roadside kiosks around the Med? He’d eat ‘em all day if I let him. Unfortunately he also has a tendency to lose the syrup filling down his front, which has led to more ruined shirts than would fill a steamer trunk.
A nudist holiday neatly sidesteps this problem. Whilst maple syrup may not be particularly easy to remove from a naked chest – especially a hirsute male one – it ’s a whole lot easier than washing it out of a silk or cotton shirt. Nor does it leave a stain, except for a livid red mark across the torso after the treacle has been scrubbed from the chest hair, but that’s the price men pay for being so clumsy. (In the interests of equality, I have to concede that this is not just a male quirk. After a bottle or two I have been known to distribute red wine down my bosom with something approaching gay abandon, rendering any affected clothing null and void in the process. However I insist that this is not clumsiness on my part, but merely the result of my being tired and emotional. So there.)
Reason #4
It makes more sense to be naked on a beach than to wear a bathing costume.
Let’s face it. A bathing costume serves no useful purpose. It doesn’t keep us dry, or warm, and doesn’t even help us to swim: studies by the West German Olympic swim team showed that swimsuits actually hamper a swimmer. They’re not even healthy. Ticks and sea lice that bite or sting and which find nowhere to hide on a nude body are easily trapped in a bathing suit.
So why do we wear ‘em
To preserve one’s modesty? Hardly. These days mens’ costumes are brief enough but ladies bathers are positively miniscule, containing less fabric than
a small handkerchief. Bikini tops afford less coverage than two postage stamps on a string, and in any case are rarely worn on European beaches. Bikini bottoms just cover the genitals but often leave the bottom exposed.
Which also means they don’t protect you from the sun’s harmful UV rays.
Yet according to a survey carried out by the Ladies’ Home Journal Americans spend $900,000,000 each year on bathing costumes, although eighty-five percent of all swimsuits purchased never touch the water.
Doesn’t make a lot of sense does it?
Reason #5
Nudist resorts are nice places with nice people.
Every nudist knows that genuine nudists are very nice people. What makes nudist especially nice remains a mystery. Perhaps nudism attracts the pleasantest individuals in the first place, or maybe the practice of nudism somehow improves people. Who knows? And really, who cares? Let’s just enjoy the situation. You can leave an unlocked car at a nudist resort and nothing will be taken. Nudist resorts and beaches tend to be orderly, well behaved places. Even at a nudist holiday city such as Cap d’Agde, containing some 40000 people at the height of the season, there is none of the threatening atmosphere, violence and general loutishness that disfigures other holiday hot-spots. Any sort of crime is almost non-existent, and most large complexes, even Cap d’Agde, need no more than minimal security.
You don’t get that at Benidorm or Palm Springs!
Reason #6
Nudist entrepreneurs need our support.
Despite estimates that the world nude travel business is worth some four hundred million USD annually and growing fast, the nudist holiday industry is still a fragile plant that needs encouragement and support. The fine nudist resorts that cater to the nudist holidaymaker today are a far cry from the primitive camps that were available in the not too distant past, and by attracting the new generation of vacationers who demand a certain standard of comfort, are in a large part responsible for the growth of the nude leisure industry. However, quality costs money, and these resorts are businesses, not charities. Unless we continue to support them they’ll close, and we’ll return to the old clapped out, run down, make-do-and-mend compounds of yesteryear. As the old saying goes, you have to use ‘em or lose ‘em
So, it looks as if we’ll choose nude again this year. All we have to do is to decide where. Wait a minute. I’ve just had a wonderful idea. Perhaps we can support the Tsunami appeal and please ourselves at the same time by going nude in Thailand.
That’s it! Brilliant. Now, then, where are those brochures…?
What To Do When You Think He Might Be Bisexual
Your boyfriend tends to remark on what the men in the bar are wearing as often as he does the girls. When he’s had a little to drink he flirts a little with the men at the table. Although he says that he is hetero, you are beginning to wonder if maybe he would bat for both teams, if given the chance.
Bisexuality is fast becoming less though of as a third orientation. Some bisexuals contend that we are all bisexual to a degree. Others submit that it is a natural part of curiosity and most people have thoughts or feelings about the same sex as well as the opposite sex, but do not consider themselves as homosexual. Still others shout from the roof tops that it is the best of both worlds. So if he is attracted to both men and women, does that automatically make him a bisexual?
Not necessarily. The best definition I’ve heard of sexual orientation is based not on who you have slept with, but who you’d like to sleep with. Take it for what it’s worth. It’s also a myth that all bisexuals are just going through a phase in determining which sexuality they prefer to identify with. This is dangerous thinking because it implies that homosexuality is a choice, which the moral majority would have you believe. We know that it is not.
You need also remember that sexuality is like a spiral, not a line. It can change and shift over time. Just because a person is attracted to both sexes doe not mean that they can not have a magnanimous relationship with one person. They have chosen you as a person, not as a sexual being. Bisexuals are often not attracted equally to both sexes, either, although nothing is set in stone-some are.
So what are you going to do about it? Remember that he may not see it himself, or he may be denying it, or confused, or afraid you won’t understand. You need to figure out how you feel about the possibility before you confront him or jump to conclusions that could hurt your relationship. If you have a problem with it, maybe you should look at why. Are you insecure or afraid he will “turn gay” and leave you if it comes out in the open? Honesty in a relationship is the most important aspect of intimacy, and not sex.
If you are with a great guy and have great sex and you love each other, who cares who he is attracted to? He may never act on it, or you may discuss the possibility of him acting on his feelings if it’s out in the open. If it’s true he will probably be relieved.
But what if you’re wrong? If you think he may be bisexual but aren’t sure, you had better make reasonably sure before you ask him about it. If the two of you have been together for awhile, this will probably be easier, but if the relationship is new you might want to check with old girlfriends or mutual friends before you shoot off your mouth. If you are just being easily jealous and insecure because of your own issues, get a grip.
How To Introduce The Idea Of A Threesome
Take a poll in any bar or on any college campus-anywhere there are men for that matter, and the result will always be the same. The ultimate fantasy is the menage de trois, the threesome. Two girls and one guy.
But how do you get her to go for it? Well, let’s take a quick history lesson, the results of which may surprise you.
Thirty-one Ways Women Can Make Sex Great for Men
Most women learn about men, love, sex and relationships the hard way. Get a head start with these tips…
1. Learn how he likes his penis to be handled
His penis is not like your clitoris – it’s not highly sensitive and delicate. So he’ll want you to go straight for his penis during sex, and once you’re there he’ll want you to apply a firm pressure (though you can make sex last longer by teasing him and working gradually down his body towards his penis). Learn how he masturbates, if necessary by watching him, and you’ll soon see the kind of stroke and pressure he appreciates most.
2. Play with his balls
Because men are so penis-centred, they and their partners tend to forget how sensitive and erotic his scrotum and testicles can be. Play with his balls as you give him fellatio, for example, and he’ll be in heaven. You could even try taking one at a time into your mouth and gently rolling it around.
3. Play with his perineum
If you haven’t discovered the erotic potential of his perineum yet – that’s the area between his scrotum and anus – then another treat’s in store. You can press, lick, stroke and tease this area, right up to his anus, and increase his sexual excitement enormously.
4. When he comes, stimulate his anus
A finger on his anus when he comes can make a man’s orgasm feel much more intense. If he’s near his orgasm, it can make him come there and then. And if you put a (well-lubed) finger inside him and press his prostate gland when he comes, he’s likely to have a massive orgasm!
5. Talk dirty as you make love
A lot of women are too inhibited to talk dirty during sex, but I’d say most men like it – a lot. If you tell him to “fuck my hot wet cunt” when you’re both enjoying sex, he’s most likely to come there and then!
6. Do something different
If you always employ the same old routine during sex, do something different. For example, try a different sex position. If you usually have sex with him on top, roll over so you’re doing it on your sides, facing each other. If you haven’t tried woman on top, get up there and ride him. If he likes rear entry (and which man doesn’t?) then let him enter you from behind while you lie in the spoons position on the bed – that’s more intimate than rear entry but probably just as exciting for him. Or take the initiative, and seduce him in the kitchen, making love on the table or the floor! These positions are especially fun to try when you’re feeling horny.
7. Try watching porn together
Men like porn, and whether you appreciate it or not, it’s here to stay, and he’s most likely using it to get off. But the good news is that there is some nice erotic stuff around that isn’t abusive to women. One name to watch out for is Femme Productions. Sharing a sexy DVD before you go to bed can really add a spark of passion and excitement to your sex.
8. Wake him up in the night for sex
A woman can always seduce a man subtly if she puts her mind to it. So see what happens if you press your buttocks up against him in the night, or if you press your hot vulva against his cock as he slumbers. Move your hips around a little as you do this, and he’ll soon be raring to go. This might be best reserved for the nights you don’t have an early start next day.
9. Use lube if you need to – or even if you don’t
Even if you have a nicely moist vagina, a little extra lube is often a revelation. Just a squirt of Astroglide or Probe can change the feel of sex completely, making it seem like a new experience.
10. Try lube inside the condom
Just a little lube inside the condom can make sex much more pleasurable, but don’t use too much or it might just slip off when you least expect it!
11. Be assertive during sex
Take the lead during sex, act like a sex goddess, and do all the work for a change. Men like their partners to be assertive and sexually dominant from time to time, because having the responsibility for always initiating sex is tiring and involves at least some rejection. It’s a refreshing change when a woman acts as the dominant partner.
Yes, girls, men want you to sometimes take the lead and be sexually assertive. If you aren’t sure how to do this, start by climbing on top of him – the woman on top position can be very empowering for you, and he’s sure to love it. You can control the depth and speed of thrusting, especially if you tell him to lie still and enjoy it while you ride him!
12. Let him masturbate between your breasts
Ladies, you just don’t appreciate how much men like breasts. Even if you’re used to him making a bee-line for them when you make love, you still don’t know….just take it from me, it’s like being in heaven when you fold them around his penis and let him thrust between them.
13. Alternate shallow and deep thrusts during vaginal intercourse
Men often like deep thrusting because it feels more powerful and sexy – and it makes them come quicker. But a good plan is to switch between deep thrusts and shallow ones as you make love, because shallow thrusts delay his orgasm, stimulate his glans and frenulum (the most sensitive bits of his penis), and they also hit your G-spot.
14. Press back against him as he thrusts
You don’t have to be passive during sex. Even in the man on top position you can thrust back against him, buck your pelvis, and add all your sexual energy to his. If you’re having sex in the rear entry position, get him to stand still while you move back and forth along his penis.
15. Tell him you how much you want him to fuck you
Assuming your man is just like the rest of us, he’ll want to be told how much you admire, like and desire him. Whereas women want to be cherished by their partners, the corresponding desire in men is to be respected. Telling him how skillful and desirable he is as a lover will press all the right buttons.
16. Masturbate in front of him…
If you feel inhibited about masturbating in front of your partner – don’t. Seeing you bring yourself off is just about as exciting as it gets for him.
17. … then make love to him
If you masturbate in front of him, he’ll get so turned on, he’ll be desperate to fuck you, and he won’t last long when he does!
18. Teach him how you like him to masturbate you
Men aren’t the most subtle creatures in the world when it comes to masturbation, so you may need to coach him in the best ways for you to reach orgasm. Show him what you like, how you like to be touched, and how this changes as you get more aroused.
19. Have your orgasm before he enters you
This is especially good for men who come quite quickly. If he goes down on you (or masturbates you) until you have an orgasm, the pressure on him not to come quickly during sex is much reduced. What’s more, making love to you after you’ve had an orgasm means your vagina will still be hot, wet and swollen, and this will be a real turn-on for him, not to mention the fact that it will feel absolutely wonderful for him when he penetrates you.
20. Undress in front of him
Yes, we know you’re self-conscious about your body. But here’s the good news – he likes it. He knows it intimately, he makes love to it, and he sees it as a thing of beauty; he doesn’t look for the flaws in it, like you might be tempted to do. So he’ll love watching you undress, and if you add a little innocent seduction into the process, he’ll get turned on and show you how much he appreciates your body when you do make love.
21. Buy some sexy underwear and wear it like it was made for you
You don’t have to feel like a tart if you buy some sexy lingerie and act like a tease. High quality, pretty underwear is a turn on for both men and women.
22. Be wanton
It’s a common male fantasy to be bedded by a wanton woman who’ll act dirty and uninhibited. You can help him fulfill that fantasy by unleashing the sex goddess in yourself for a night. For example, try whispering to him when you’re having a night out that you aren’t wearing any underwear and that you’re oozing with desire for him. See the look on his face and you’ll know what I mean – but be prepared to have sex the moment you get through your door when you arrive home!
23. Ask him about his sexual fantasies – and perhaps act them out
But don’t laugh when he tells you what they are. He may not have shared his innermost fantasies with you for all kinds of reasons; they may even be some of his deepest secrets. Even if you don’t want to act them out, respect the fact that he shared them with you. If you do act them out, have fun, and don’t take it too seriously.
24. Don’t alienate him from the bedroom
Pretty frills and bright patterns and colors are all very well, but it’s his bedroom too, and he may appreciate being consulted about how much lace you want around the place. In short, don’t make your bedroom too feminine for his comfort.
25. Let his penis calm down after sex
Some men have such a sensitive glans after sex that they can’t bear to have it touched for quite a while. So be careful of his penis after you have made love.
26. Explore his body
Despite being so penis centered, men do like being licked, touched and stroked all over their bodies. For example, a man’s nipples are likely to be just as sensitive as yours – so encourage him to let you play with them. Some other places to stroke, tickle and lick him: his legs, buttocks and armpits; his neck and scalp; his toes; his back…..so that’s just about all over his body, really!
27. Know how to kiss
Yes, it’s nice to enjoy gentle kissing, but he’ll certainly appreciate a bit of full-on mouth work from you from time to time. It hints at penetration and breaks down barriers to intimacy and familiarity.
28. Discover his favorite sexual positions
All the sex positions have something in their favor, but like most men, he’ll have his favorite. It might be man on top for the deep penetration and feeling of dominance; it might be rear entry for the sheer pleasure of fucking you from behind; it might be woman on top for the pleasure of lying back and enjoying the ride. Most likely, it’s all of them! But there will be ways in which you can make it even better for him, perhaps by squeezing his penis while he’s inside you, or wrapping your legs around him when he’s on top. Take the time to find out what turns him on, and he’ll show his gratitude both in and out of the bedroom!
29. Don’t fake orgasm
You’re not a charity, and it’s disrespectful to both of you to pretend you’re sexually satisfied when you’re not. If you don’t make it to orgasm during intercourse, have your orgasm from him giving you oral sex before you have intercourse. Remember, very few woman actually reach orgasm through intercourse, and most they like it for other reasons such as feeling loved or giving their partner pleasure.
30. Learn to give great head
Nothing you can do for a man shows you love him like oral sex. Women think men like it because it feels good – and that’s certainly true. But men also like it because it’s the ultimate symbol of acceptance by their partner – that she will take his most precious part and accept it into her mouth. Good oral sex is at least as good as vaginal intercourse for me, and many other men as well, I’m sure. And when you know how to do it well, you’ll have a lover keen to pleasure you in return.
31. Develop a tight vagina
Apart from the fact that a healthy set of PC muscles is good for you, it does make a difference to men during sex whether their partner has a tight vagina or not. Some men say that making love to a woman who’s had a child is much less satisfying – well, if the woman has toned up her muscles, with Kegel exercises, that need not be the case.
So there we are! Some simple tips to make sex great for men. Like it or not, sex is incredibly important to most men, and most relationships go a lot better when the partners are enjoying fulfilling sex. If you as a woman get satisfaction from seeing your man happy in bed, then the tips above go a long way towards making that happen.
